"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Blonde vs redhead vs brunette/dark haired, possible for guys to do better with one than others?

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I attract a lot of brunettes and dark haired white girls even though we have variety in my area (blondes, some redheads, ethnic girls, etc.) but I match a lot with white women who have dark or brown hair and get a lot of IOIs, come ons and interests from them too.

Any reason why?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Regarding white women,

I seem to do the best in this order 1)Red 2) Blonde 3)Brunette .

But... My preference is 1) Brunette 2)Blonde 3)Red.

In my area, the order as far as friendliness and approachablity is 1) Blonde 2) Red 3) Brunette.. The brunettes here are mostly cvnts. But the blondes are nice as can be.

I keep all options open!
 

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I have this theory that women are (consciously or unconsciously) imagining what a couple’s picture of her and her future bf/husband will look like.

We know how they coordinate clothing items, right? Well, they also try to coordinate so that the “look” of her guy is “compatible” with her.

Obviously this “compatibility” is highly subjective.

TLDR: Evidently brunette or dark haired women see your look as compatible with their look.
 
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I have actually had a pretty good experience with white women as a whole, it is not that I cannot get a blonde or redhead. Now just to note, I am a minority but handsome compared to most guys of my race (Indian/South Asian).

What I notice is that while I have to proactively pursue blondes and to a degree redheads (who are a small number of the population anyways), I notice that dark haired white women (Italian, Jewish and Eastern European) and to a lesser degree brunette white women pursue me more aggressively. Like I am talking meeting me and putting their arms around me, flirting with me more, sending me sexual messages on dating apps and making it clear they want to smash. I don't have this experience with blondes or redheads.

It kind of makes me wonder about the whole "opposites attract" theory, apparently I am supposed to have this experience with blondes and gingers while brunettes are supposed to be very meh towards me.
 
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Regarding white women,

I seem to do the best in this order 1)Red 2) Blonde 3)Brunette .

But... My preference is 1) Brunette 2)Blonde 3)Red.

In my area, the order as far as friendliness and approachablity is 1) Blonde 2) Red 3) Brunette.. The brunettes here are mostly cvnts. But the blondes are nice as can be.

I keep all options open!
You're in Chicago, don't they have a huge Eastern Euro population? I hear women from certain eastern euro groups like Serbians can be real kunts. Could be a heritage thing as well, Eastern Euro descent women can be very icy.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You're in Chicago, don't they have a huge Eastern Euro population? I hear women from certain eastern euro groups like Serbians can be real kunts. Could be a heritage thing as well, Eastern Euro descent women can be very icy.
I’m 2 hours southwest of Chicago. Some consider where I live part of the Chicago area but i don’t.

There are mostly white mutt women in my immediate vicinity. A lot of them prefer black guys but not all. My GF now actually, a blonde, told me before we hooked up that she prefers black guys but ole Lefty broke that tradition for her, ooops! lol There are also quite a few Indian women but most of them are with Indian dudes. I would love a nice Indian woman but finding one that’s single is almost impossible in my area.
 

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I seem to attract redheads
 
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I’m 2 hours southwest of Chicago. Some consider where I live part of the Chicago area but i don’t.

There are mostly white mutt women in my immediate vicinity. A lot of them prefer black guys but not all. My GF now actually, a blonde, told me before we hooked up that she prefers black guys but ole Lefty broke that tradition for her, ooops! lol There are also quite a few Indian women but most of them are with Indian dudes. I would love a nice Indian woman but finding one that’s single is almost impossible in my area.
LOL Indian women are not too hard for me but then again I am Indian.
 

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LOL Indian women are not too hard for me but then again I am Indian.
Exactly! I figured maybe it was just a culture or religious thing that they don't go for white guys. I've never once seen a white guy talking to one at my work for more than serious business. I've tried my humor on the Indian women but they are not having it. White women and black women love it, most of the time anyway.
 

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I never intentionally set out to do so, but I seem to have more success with blondes, even the ones that are brunettes at the business end. :cool:
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Exactly! I figured maybe it was just a culture or religious thing that they don't go for white guys. I've never once seen a white guy talking to one at my work for more than serious business. I've tried my humor on the Indian women but they are not having it. White women and black women love it, most of the time anyway.
Depends on upbringing, if you want real bad, go for the ones who are really whitewashed.
 
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