"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
logicallefty
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Girl I am interested in, and THINK a good friend of mine, I will call him Bob, may also interested in her. I don't think Bob knows I am interested, though.
She has bluntly showed signs of interest to both of us...
I asked her out this Friday night. She said she's going to a party our group of friends is having, and asked me if I was going.. I said "hmm, I had thought about it but hadn't decided". Then she asked me if Bob was going. I said "yeah I think so".
Her plan: lets get them both there and let them compete for me
My plan: sealed another date with another chick. Not going to the party. Told Bob that I had a date and asked him to tell our girl I said "Hi, and sorry I couldn't make it".. If she cares and askes where I am at, well, Bob is innocent, he will tell her the truth! ;-)
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.