"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Long story short I went on a business trip to LA with coworkers coming from offices from around the nation. Started hitting it off with one of them and everything was going well until her ugly female friend decided she’s going to start hitting on me. Starts buying me drinks, making sexual innuendos throughout the entire night. When I tried to get the other girls info, she said she didn’t want to get involved with me since her friend likes me. I tried telling her that it wasn’t mutual and that i was interested in her. She didn’t care though.

On the spot I couldn’t think of something else to seal the deal. Any thoughts, ideas or pointers?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You got an excuse instead of her number. Sounds like low interest and she was you letting you down gently.

I don't really know the exact circumstances, but you mentioned this a was a business trip. You may have thought you were hitting it off, but she may have thought she was simply having an engaging conversation with a coworker who ended up coming on too strong to her. Or perhaps she has a boyfriend. Or maybe she is loyal to her "ugly" friend if her "ugly" friend stated to her beforehand that she was going for you.

In any event, interest wasn't high enough in my opinion.
 

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You got an excuse instead of her number. Sounds like low interest and she was you letting you down gently.

I don't really know the exact circumstances, but you mentioned this a was a business trip. You may have thought you were hitting it off, but she may have thought she was simply having an engaging conversation with a coworker who ended up coming on too strong to her. Or perhaps she has a boyfriend. Or maybe she is loyal to her "ugly" friend if her "ugly" friend stated to her beforehand that she was going for you.

In any event, interest wasn't high enough in my opinion.
Grinding on my **** at the bar didn’t seem like low interest. I guess one just never knows what a woman is thinking.
 

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Grinding on my **** at the bar didn’t seem like low interest. I guess one just never knows what a woman is thinking.
Her giving you an excuse instead of her number does though.

Some girls are just looking for fun and attention and can grind on 20+ d!cks in one night and it won’t mean anything regarding interest.

Probably why a lot of guys on here will say the only true unmistakeable indicator of interest is if she’s fvcking you. Even then, a girl may not necessarily like you, and was just “interested” in sex at that particular moment in time and you were a convenient option.
 

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Long story short I went on a business trip to LA with coworkers coming from offices from around the nation. Started hitting it off with one of them and everything was going well until her ugly female friend decided she’s going to start hitting on me. Starts buying me drinks, making sexual innuendos throughout the entire night. When I tried to get the other girls info, she said she didn’t want to get involved with me since her friend likes me. I tried telling her that it wasn’t mutual and that i was interested in her. She didn’t care though.

On the spot I couldn’t think of something else to seal the deal. Any thoughts, ideas or pointers?
if she liked you she'd have been mad at her friend for not backing off of you, instead she said she wouldn't get involved to step on that girl's toes (read: that hot one doesn't like you but the other one does)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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if she liked you she'd have been mad at her friend for not backing off of you, instead she said she wouldn't get involved to step on that girl's toes (read: that hot one doesn't like you but the other one does)
Yea makes sense. Tough to accept when it seemed like progress was being made.
 
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