"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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blind date, meet for a drink, what if she asks to see a movie?

HappyHarryHardon

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hey guys, i'm new :)

so i met her on a dating website. firstly, she did suggest drink+movie and i said lets just grab a drink and talk a bit, get to know each other. but what happens if in the middle of it all she suggests to go see that movie. this is my first date with her so i know movies arent the best thing for a first date. what if we are really getting along an hour into it and she wants to see a movie, maybe i could plant some moves while we are watching seeing as we already spent an hour getting to know each other. or i should just tell her leave it for the second date?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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powpow

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Man same **** happening to me right now. She wants to see a movie. Im like, the **** am I really that boring? I do love cinema, but it seems kind of lame to suggest going to a movie. Thats old married people ****, you know? I will go to the cinema with my friends, but on a date? Like come on. Boring. I say we both ditch that crap.
 

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Movies = makeout, maybe other stuff as well. You guys are just too passive. I don't go to the movies with a chick to watch a movie, I go to get down with her. If there's something I really want to see, I'm not going with a girl.

So make sure to watch something ****ty so it won't distract you/her and the room won't be too packed.
 

HappyHarryHardon

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Chickfight said:
Movies = makeout, maybe other stuff as well. You guys are just too passive. I don't go to the movies with a chick to watch a movie, I go to get down with her. If there's something I really want to see, I'm not going with a girl.

So make sure to watch something ****ty so it won't distract you/her and the room won't be too packed.
this is a first date though... you think that's still okay within an hour of the date? i mean, she DID suggest it. but i don't know.. everyone says its the worst idea on a first date.
 

ARrocket

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*After an hour of drinks and flirtation and escalation*

Her: Let's go see a movie!

You: Hmm...what's playing?

Her: Twilight, Sisterhood of Traveling Pants, etc

You: Not really feeling those...hey there's a Redbox over there, let's pick something out, I have surround-sound at my place ;)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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5string

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Take control. Tell her you want to do something other than see a movie. You can't get to know her during a movie.

If you do however wind up going a movie, take the bottom out of your popcorn cup and give her a surprise.
 

cablecow15

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i used to live near the best place for dates its like a giant outside mall with musicians and crap every where plus a giant movie theater for after you get to know them well enough , but honestly every time i took a girl to the movies , it was like paying to get blue balls , and there is a thing as to much making out to , because once u start , u cant stop , i made out with this girl so much that i litteraly could not tell my spit from hers , was pretty nasty at that point lol
 

HappyHarryHardon

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well an hour is plenty of time to get comfortable with each other. i figured going to see a movie after a long chit chat i could put the moves on her while the flirting and spark feelings are still in her. the shopping center will be closing in an hour and a half after meeting. either i could go see a movie after an hour or just call it a night and kiss her in the car? i never invite girls to my house the first date. even i dont feel comfortable with that. UNLESS we hit it off really REALLY good.

the date is tomorrow!
 
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