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blind date, meet for a drink, what if she asks to see a movie?

HappyHarryHardon

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hey guys, i'm new :)

so i met her on a dating website. firstly, she did suggest drink+movie and i said lets just grab a drink and talk a bit, get to know each other. but what happens if in the middle of it all she suggests to go see that movie. this is my first date with her so i know movies arent the best thing for a first date. what if we are really getting along an hour into it and she wants to see a movie, maybe i could plant some moves while we are watching seeing as we already spent an hour getting to know each other. or i should just tell her leave it for the second date?
 

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Man same **** happening to me right now. She wants to see a movie. Im like, the **** am I really that boring? I do love cinema, but it seems kind of lame to suggest going to a movie. Thats old married people ****, you know? I will go to the cinema with my friends, but on a date? Like come on. Boring. I say we both ditch that crap.
 

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Movies = makeout, maybe other stuff as well. You guys are just too passive. I don't go to the movies with a chick to watch a movie, I go to get down with her. If there's something I really want to see, I'm not going with a girl.

So make sure to watch something ****ty so it won't distract you/her and the room won't be too packed.
 

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Chickfight said:
Movies = makeout, maybe other stuff as well. You guys are just too passive. I don't go to the movies with a chick to watch a movie, I go to get down with her. If there's something I really want to see, I'm not going with a girl.

So make sure to watch something ****ty so it won't distract you/her and the room won't be too packed.
this is a first date though... you think that's still okay within an hour of the date? i mean, she DID suggest it. but i don't know.. everyone says its the worst idea on a first date.
 

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*After an hour of drinks and flirtation and escalation*

Her: Let's go see a movie!

You: Hmm...what's playing?

Her: Twilight, Sisterhood of Traveling Pants, etc

You: Not really feeling those...hey there's a Redbox over there, let's pick something out, I have surround-sound at my place ;)
 

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Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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Take control. Tell her you want to do something other than see a movie. You can't get to know her during a movie.

If you do however wind up going a movie, take the bottom out of your popcorn cup and give her a surprise.
 

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i used to live near the best place for dates its like a giant outside mall with musicians and crap every where plus a giant movie theater for after you get to know them well enough , but honestly every time i took a girl to the movies , it was like paying to get blue balls , and there is a thing as to much making out to , because once u start , u cant stop , i made out with this girl so much that i litteraly could not tell my spit from hers , was pretty nasty at that point lol
 

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well an hour is plenty of time to get comfortable with each other. i figured going to see a movie after a long chit chat i could put the moves on her while the flirting and spark feelings are still in her. the shopping center will be closing in an hour and a half after meeting. either i could go see a movie after an hour or just call it a night and kiss her in the car? i never invite girls to my house the first date. even i dont feel comfortable with that. UNLESS we hit it off really REALLY good.

the date is tomorrow!
 
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