"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Blame the women. It's not your fault.

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I've come to the conclusion that in fact it's not the man's fault he can't get women it is in fact the women.

Blame higher pay for women.
Blame feminism.
Blame men grovelling at a girls knees.
Blame women becoming more successful then men.
Blame magazines that advocate "women power".

Just don't blame yourself.

I have a feeling that men have reached the tipping point and something drastic has to happen. I don't know what but something is gonna have to happen.

I used to be an advocate of having a relationship with women but **** that.. **** as many as possible without any emotional attachment because friends that's what women are doing to us men.

Moral of the story.. You have to be a heartless bastard to be happy with a women.

I do t know.. What say you people?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SamTheHobit said:
Moral of the story.. You have to be a heartless bastard to be happy with a women. ?
I disagree entirely. I think this post of yours is full of bitterness and resentment because a girl somewhere along the line has played you a merry fiddle.
 

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perseverance said:
I disagree entirely. I think this post of yours is full of bitterness and resentment because a girl somewhere along the line has played you a merry fiddle.

Yep.

No further comment necessary.
 

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Place the blame where it belongs but that still doesn't give men a free ride. They too should take responsibilities for their own decisions and actions.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Place the blame where it belongs but that still doesn't give men a free ride. They too should take responsibilities for their own decisions and actions.
Instead of focusing on them, why don't you focus on yourself?
 

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Improve what you can about yourself, but don't beat yourself up over this women thing. It's a tough game, and there are things we don't control.

One extreme type of thinking is "All women are b@tches. Nothing is my fault."

The other extreme is the PUA thinking "I didn't get that girl because I didn't do xyz exactly right. It's always my fault if every woman doesn't want to b@ng me."

The truth is somewhere in between.
 

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The truth is men are fvcked.

Men are the ones that should have the power in the relationship but it's just not like that anymore.

Mock me all you want. But just open up your fvcking eyes.
 

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Mike nailed it. Some women are just ****ty. Girls with major personality flaws, girls with princess syndrome, airheads, sluts, attention *****s, teases, ice queens, girls who are shallow or materialistic, etc. Your game isn't the reason you fail with those women. Some women just suck. Be the best man you can be and live your life. You are going to run into some crappy chicks along the way; it's not your fault.
 

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I'm not disagreeing with you Sam. Things are REALLY F-ed up right now for most men. I'm with you on that.

MisterD and I also believe that "game" is not a cure in today's environment either.

But I try not to hate women either. Most of them don't consciously CHOOSE to be the way they are. They are the result of their environment. AWs aren't born that way. They are spoiled by their families, other men, and society in general. If I got half the attention a typical female gets, I'd probably be a male AW lol.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I blame the stale economy for everything, lack of good jobs, etc.
 

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There is no question that women's expectations are way out of whack with reality, but a man must always blame himself lest he feel like he has no control of his destiny.

She likes someone, work toward being that guy.
 

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lol I think OP is being sarcastic about it, anyone who preach here who you need to be alpha, lead or anything like can't blame others for things happens to you, its your fault to let that happen.

its like a dude who I heard who says his ex is the blame because he now have a daughter and they are not together anymore and ahve to pay for child support, you did it without condom who is the one to blame?

if things are bad, change what you can, we are all here for it is not? to cahnge things and make our life better.
 
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Your proposition is correct that a single man is not to blame for the dating reality in the modern world. However the collective guilt lies on the previous generations of men who let this happen.

The problem will not go away if we fail to acknowledge it's existence, it's real.

ALSO

The problem will not go away if we don't act accordingly.

So your options are:

1) Suicide
2) Celibacy and spiritual enlightenment
3) Misery and misogyny
4) Emigration
5) Boost your overall efforts
...

Take your pick.

I would recommend 5) .

Regards
 

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Men don't abandon women with their children.
Men don't sleep around on their wives/girlfriends
Men don't beat and abuse women
Men don't rape women


While some points are valid we live in a very hard world.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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