"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Blame the women. It's not your fault.

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I've come to the conclusion that in fact it's not the man's fault he can't get women it is in fact the women.

Blame higher pay for women.
Blame feminism.
Blame men grovelling at a girls knees.
Blame women becoming more successful then men.
Blame magazines that advocate "women power".

Just don't blame yourself.

I have a feeling that men have reached the tipping point and something drastic has to happen. I don't know what but something is gonna have to happen.

I used to be an advocate of having a relationship with women but **** that.. **** as many as possible without any emotional attachment because friends that's what women are doing to us men.

Moral of the story.. You have to be a heartless bastard to be happy with a women.

I do t know.. What say you people?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Moral of the story.. You have to be a heartless bastard to be happy with a women. ?
I disagree entirely. I think this post of yours is full of bitterness and resentment because a girl somewhere along the line has played you a merry fiddle.
 

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perseverance said:
I disagree entirely. I think this post of yours is full of bitterness and resentment because a girl somewhere along the line has played you a merry fiddle.

Yep.

No further comment necessary.
 

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Place the blame where it belongs but that still doesn't give men a free ride. They too should take responsibilities for their own decisions and actions.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Place the blame where it belongs but that still doesn't give men a free ride. They too should take responsibilities for their own decisions and actions.
Instead of focusing on them, why don't you focus on yourself?
 

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Improve what you can about yourself, but don't beat yourself up over this women thing. It's a tough game, and there are things we don't control.

One extreme type of thinking is "All women are b@tches. Nothing is my fault."

The other extreme is the PUA thinking "I didn't get that girl because I didn't do xyz exactly right. It's always my fault if every woman doesn't want to b@ng me."

The truth is somewhere in between.
 

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The truth is men are fvcked.

Men are the ones that should have the power in the relationship but it's just not like that anymore.

Mock me all you want. But just open up your fvcking eyes.
 

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Mike nailed it. Some women are just ****ty. Girls with major personality flaws, girls with princess syndrome, airheads, sluts, attention *****s, teases, ice queens, girls who are shallow or materialistic, etc. Your game isn't the reason you fail with those women. Some women just suck. Be the best man you can be and live your life. You are going to run into some crappy chicks along the way; it's not your fault.
 

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I'm not disagreeing with you Sam. Things are REALLY F-ed up right now for most men. I'm with you on that.

MisterD and I also believe that "game" is not a cure in today's environment either.

But I try not to hate women either. Most of them don't consciously CHOOSE to be the way they are. They are the result of their environment. AWs aren't born that way. They are spoiled by their families, other men, and society in general. If I got half the attention a typical female gets, I'd probably be a male AW lol.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I blame the stale economy for everything, lack of good jobs, etc.
 

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There is no question that women's expectations are way out of whack with reality, but a man must always blame himself lest he feel like he has no control of his destiny.

She likes someone, work toward being that guy.
 

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lol I think OP is being sarcastic about it, anyone who preach here who you need to be alpha, lead or anything like can't blame others for things happens to you, its your fault to let that happen.

its like a dude who I heard who says his ex is the blame because he now have a daughter and they are not together anymore and ahve to pay for child support, you did it without condom who is the one to blame?

if things are bad, change what you can, we are all here for it is not? to cahnge things and make our life better.
 
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Your proposition is correct that a single man is not to blame for the dating reality in the modern world. However the collective guilt lies on the previous generations of men who let this happen.

The problem will not go away if we fail to acknowledge it's existence, it's real.

ALSO

The problem will not go away if we don't act accordingly.

So your options are:

1) Suicide
2) Celibacy and spiritual enlightenment
3) Misery and misogyny
4) Emigration
5) Boost your overall efforts
...

Take your pick.

I would recommend 5) .

Regards
 

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Men don't abandon women with their children.
Men don't sleep around on their wives/girlfriends
Men don't beat and abuse women
Men don't rape women


While some points are valid we live in a very hard world.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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