She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Good call. The only one who is getting overly dramatic about this is you, Christz. We'll find out when the time comes. As for now, you've put your piece out there and when, if ever, Black_Italian responds - then we'll know.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
deejay, your not asking me questions because the answer to all of your questions are devils advocate.. the answers can go both ways which is why i'm not answering them and its clear what way your leaning against.. however your the only one here who seems to belive whole heartidly that B-I is telling the gods honest truth..
he will never respond.. because he knows he's caught how embarrasing would it be to admit you were wrong? i know i wouldn't
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
uhhh Deejay.. i think you made a little typo there when did i say have a picture of you and toya together? i said Black-italian.. and never did i say you..
I'm not leaning anyway. I told you I do believe you could be right. I also believe that B-I could be right. You do have some evidence to prove that he is lying. However I ask these questions as if we were at court not trying to favor one side. Listen again I’m not defending anyone or attacking anyone. In fact I haven't made my decision on whether or not he is a liar. I am just staying neutral and talking about the facts and claims. If someone claimed that you were a liar about something else and was in somewhat of the same situation I would do the same. And no I haven't lied about any of what I have posted.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
well go look at my pics I posted..
You actually know the girl? Hah - what, because you spoke to her a few times online? Get real. The internet does not count. Ever.
True....but maybe he should of thought of exposing himself here asl well.
I totally agree
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
take what you will, the whole cam/blogger scene was composed of people who knew each other via the net and through a series of blog sites it was an online community we knew each other as people, some met up with others and others didn't.
HAH i knew those pics were out there somewhere.. all his pics of toya are out there somewhere
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.