"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Black guys approaching white chicks

Chrom3y

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 21, 2008
Messages
124
Reaction score
0
I just wanted to know how successful some of the black guys on this forum have been with the white girls. Im a guy who doesn't discriminate, if a girl is cute then thats all that matters. But I feel like when I talk to white girls they judge me because of how I speak. I know proper english but I feel so weird using it. Anyone wanna share some experience in this area?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

Solomon

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 28, 2008
Messages
6,566
Reaction score
4,141
Location
Inside her mind
Damn whats up with all these racial threads now, are you serious or no? I'll answer if you are
 

GlennCoCo

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 23, 2009
Messages
54
Reaction score
0
Location
California, USA
Does being half black count?

Anyways, you are what you attract, meaning If you dress black and act black your most likely gonna attract black or ghetto white girls. If your weird, your gonna attract weird girls. This isn't always true though.

In my case, I act more white than black. So I get with white girls.

I've seen some white HB's into black guys, so don't put yourself down. Just make a good approach and be charismatic.
 

Chrom3y

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 21, 2008
Messages
124
Reaction score
0
Yes soloman...I am very serious. Dont be mad at me. Im a noob just trying to make changes...
 

Son of anarchy

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 14, 2009
Messages
141
Reaction score
2
If you think your problem is the way you speak why u focus so much about being black?
Just improve your talking or your vocabulary,anyway as GlennCoCo told you,remember that if you talk like a rapper you'll get some girls into that style while if you talk like a normal man you'll get normal girls.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

Igetit!

Moderator
Joined
Jul 13, 2008
Messages
2,880
Reaction score
920
Location
The United State of Texas
Solomon said:
Damn whats up with all these racial threads now, are you serious or no? I'll answer if you are
Exactly what I was thinking.

The first thought that came to my mind when I saw the title of this thread was,"Here we go again".

Nevertheless,to me,attraction is attraction. I think it was Rollo Tomassi who said that attraction/sexual chemistry isn't a negotiation between a man and a woman,it's spontaneous.

Attraction isn't something that's planned.

A white woman may not usually date black guys or any other men outside of her race,but if a guy does and says the right things that create chemistry in her,(imo) she'll throw him being a different race out the window.
Women are emotional. If you can create/stir one emotion in her,then you can create others.

A white man can make a white woman angry. A black man can make a white woman angry. If a black man can stir up anger in a white woman,then he can stir up passion in her too. And women follow their feeling/emotions.

We know how women are. They make decisions that are logically irrational,even to themselves sometimes.

A woman can say that she'd never date a black guy,then a black man could walk up to her,say some things that cause her attraction level to shoot through the roof,then the next thing you know,she's walking hand in hand with him. Someone who knew she said she'd never date a black guy can see her with him,then later on ask her why she's dating a black guy when she swore she'd never do that. Then as all women do,she'd rationalize it in some way.

To me,if you're having problems with dating white girls,it's NOT because you're black,it's because you're not doing the things necessary to cause attraction in her.
 

Solomon

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 28, 2008
Messages
6,566
Reaction score
4,141
Location
Inside her mind
Chrom3y said:
I just wanted to know how successful some of the black guys on this forum have been with the white girls. Im a guy who doesn't discriminate, if a girl is cute then thats all that matters. But I feel like when I talk to white girls they judge me because of how I speak. I know proper english but I feel so weird using it. Anyone wanna share some experience in this area?

As most of y'all know, I'm a black man, I live in a mostly white area, so hence typically that's what I run into the field. Since I, Solomon, started going out more and on this quest of improvement, My dealings with white females has improved drastically.

The thing is when you step up to a white chick, do you, don't worry about what she thinks, but don't come at her like one of those brothers who is like "yo yo yo, shorty let me holla at you" unless you at a hoodspot or something that shiit won't work. Obviosuly when you use proper grammer, supp'd up vocabulary, you sound more inteligent and that's with any female, coming at a lilly white girl at a semi-country club on some "yo yo ma, you know what this be right here, knamean? let me holla at chu, cause you we can pop dem things" ain't gonna work You can still have swagger when step up to them on some "Hey how you doing tonight? my name is Chro3my!"

It's all how you carry yourself knamean? I see some brothers at some mostly "white" clubs and they standing there trying to get girls of their "blackness" (posted up being hard) @ these spots that won't work, you gotta engage, be fun as I like to call being "that dude" when I dancee I just have fun.

Comfort/Building rapport

is so important when it comes to this, the more comfortable the chick feels with you the more relax'd she will be.

If you @ a hood spot, then it's still about "how you come at them" you gotta approach respectfull, you can still talk in "slang" but don't overdue it. As a brother in the field once told me, "Just do you"
 

Captain Harlock

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 13, 2009
Messages
358
Reaction score
3
Location
The Netherlands
GlennCoCo said:
Does being half black count?

Anyways, you are what you attract, meaning If you dress black and act black your most likely gonna attract black or ghetto white girls. If your weird, your gonna attract weird girls. This isn't always true though.

In my case, I act more white than black. So I get with white girls.

I've seen some white HB's into black guys, so don't put yourself down. Just make a good approach and be charismatic.
what does 'acting white' or 'acting black' mean?
 

GlennCoCo

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 23, 2009
Messages
54
Reaction score
0
Location
California, USA
Captain Harlock said:
what does 'acting white' or 'acting black' mean?
If you stand a black guy, who talks black, walks black, and attitude black. Next to a white guy who talks white, walks white, and his attitude is white. Your gonna see a difference.

It's not so much of acting, I just can't find a better word say.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

DonGorgon

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 28, 2007
Messages
4,679
Reaction score
102
Location
Studying the fact that all lies contain fragments
if you obsess over race it will become more of an issue for you... black does not have to mean ghetto. Be black but be sophisticated and smart with all people.. not all whites are intelligent so avoid the dumb ones just as you would avoid dumb black people..

Yes people will assume that cause you are black you will be ghetto but its very easy you kill that assumption (if you are not ghetto..lol).. many white will reject you cause you are black and they dont like black people,, thats life just move on to the next person.
 

Chrom3y

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 21, 2008
Messages
124
Reaction score
0
I appreciate all of the replies, especially Soloman's. I figured you'd be one of the first to reply, I remember reading in another post that you were black. So thanks...everyone that is. Just gotta sack up and be myself.
 

Craig Reeves

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 18, 2003
Messages
519
Reaction score
28
Age
42
Location
Texas, USA
I've been successful dating white girls as well as black and other races. I don't discriminate either. I'm black.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

Kupid Diggs

Don Juan
Joined
May 5, 2008
Messages
115
Reaction score
10
Location
Japan
Craig Reeves said:
I've been successful dating white girls as well as black and other races. I don't discriminate either. I'm black.
Yea, but you live in Texas...
 

ketostix

Banned
Joined
Feb 10, 2005
Messages
3,871
Reaction score
55
Well if a white guy went up to white chicks and couldn't speak proper English, how far do you think he'd get? They'd think he was some retarded creep loser. What is this thread, affirmative action for dating white girls?
 

Hughman

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 25, 2009
Messages
479
Reaction score
4
Location
Birmingham, UK
Don't know how bad racial tension is in the US of A, but the UK, it's not so much about race but about social standing. Speaking like you are from the the 'ghetto' is going cause preconceived judgments, namely that you may want to shank them. Speaking like you're a graduate from top private school is going to create other ones, namely that you have ambition, education and probably a healthy bank account.

I'm not a racist (it's pretty damn hard for me to be one, my family has so many different bloodlines either directly through me, or married to relatives - my cousin is half-Indian for example). But I am an elitist and a social snob.

My friends that are not of my 'race' are to the last one, all intelligent, ambitious and articulate. But that is true of just about every Caucasian friend I have. The only exceptions is if there is a girlfriend/boyfriend of one of my friends who I wouldn't normally hang around with. And even then they are only a notch higher than acquittance.
 

Kevin Feng

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Oct 6, 2008
Messages
258
Reaction score
5
If you're looking to classify "black guy game", it just boils down to simple direct game with passive value maxed out. If you notice, at the very least bit, most black guys you see that go out dress pretty well and usually have a pretty nice car (perhaps I'm generalizing), and usually they'll post up in a certain spot and make direct approaches at girls that pass by.

It defies what it is conventional Mystery Method since it's all about showing interest upfront. In my experience, this requires a larger pool and is more of a shotgun method, though it can definitely be adapted to any other race and its not as if it ONLY applies to black men.

My Mentor Asian Playboy wrote about this not too long ago:

http://theasianplayboy.blogspot.com/2006/05/impact-approach-30-seconds-to-make-it.html
 

Chrom3y

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 21, 2008
Messages
124
Reaction score
0
Glad to see a lot of people replying to this, even if its not all "advice". And my english isnt ghetto or w/e. Its just not completely proper. Im making a big deal out of nothing though, I'll just use my eyes to get girls. They LOVE them. Just hard to think of something good after they compliment them.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

Read more...

Top