Alright, a post below I commented on made me think of this and I was going to post further there but the subject matter isn't right for the discussion.
This may take the expertise of the more aged men here (definately over 25).
My wife and I are friends with a couple we are going to hang out with again soon. Haven't seen them for a couple years. They recently moved back near us.
He and I have been friends since H.S. He met his now wife about 6 years ago. They've been togeather for 5. I met mine shortly after and I've been married to her for 3 years.
Fellas...
How do you determine if a couple like to swap? (swingers)
(bombshell) :nervous:
Okay heres why. In the past, there have been things his wife has indicated to me and one or two things he has said to me, way back, that make me suspicious and have also made me wonder about their intentions when we've hung out in the past.
His wife is extra flirtatious (or was previously with me for quite some time) at times and has indicated she 'liked' me when we first met. (all with a friendly smile and a giggle when she says it)
He (my friend) had experiences in college where he swapped partners with a couple different friends.
About 4 years ago on New Years eve we were at a hotel party, very exclusive, and his wife and I were talking out on a deck. We were talking about another couple we knew in our group of friends and she was explaining how this girl was dancing with her husband (my friend) and how she got mad about it. This happened several months before. She said she didn't like this girl and all.
In the same conversation she then mentioned that she and her husband (my friend) had discussed that if somehow one of us (being them, my wife and I or a third set of friends who we all know) ever ended up at home togeather with the others spouse, they wouldn't care b/c they like us and 'trust' us.
I wondered what I was hearing at first and just listened intently. She then went on to explain that if she saw my wife 'straddle' her husband it would be okay and wouldn't make her upset. But if she saw this other girl as discussed previously do it, she would be mad. ????? My wife said she told her the same thing and that she didn't understand what that was supposed to mean.
They later bought a home and we would come over to hang out. They would always try and get us to stay over for the night. We only lived 20 minutes away. They always had that welcome mat layed out though and never failed to ask or suggest.
An incident then occured, apparently, between them and the third OTHER couple above. There was a falling out. Apparently my friend in this third coupling wanted to watch her and his wife togeather while he and my other friend watched. :nervous:
I never would have pegged this third couple to do something like this. The first couple claim they were put off and scared by this. This was only after my wife and I asked them what was wrong between them. I've never gotten the story from my other buddy. They don't communicate much anymore. Just kind of ironic that i'm thinking the issues are coming from one place and then they supposedly come from another.
Here's what I think. I think these friends of ours are into this stuff and actually propositioned the other couple.
I just get a funny vibe from them. (her especially) and he also is the type that would seem to be into this.
This may take the expertise of the more aged men here (definately over 25).
My wife and I are friends with a couple we are going to hang out with again soon. Haven't seen them for a couple years. They recently moved back near us.
He and I have been friends since H.S. He met his now wife about 6 years ago. They've been togeather for 5. I met mine shortly after and I've been married to her for 3 years.
Fellas...
How do you determine if a couple like to swap? (swingers)
(bombshell) :nervous:
Okay heres why. In the past, there have been things his wife has indicated to me and one or two things he has said to me, way back, that make me suspicious and have also made me wonder about their intentions when we've hung out in the past.
His wife is extra flirtatious (or was previously with me for quite some time) at times and has indicated she 'liked' me when we first met. (all with a friendly smile and a giggle when she says it)
He (my friend) had experiences in college where he swapped partners with a couple different friends.
About 4 years ago on New Years eve we were at a hotel party, very exclusive, and his wife and I were talking out on a deck. We were talking about another couple we knew in our group of friends and she was explaining how this girl was dancing with her husband (my friend) and how she got mad about it. This happened several months before. She said she didn't like this girl and all.
In the same conversation she then mentioned that she and her husband (my friend) had discussed that if somehow one of us (being them, my wife and I or a third set of friends who we all know) ever ended up at home togeather with the others spouse, they wouldn't care b/c they like us and 'trust' us.
I wondered what I was hearing at first and just listened intently. She then went on to explain that if she saw my wife 'straddle' her husband it would be okay and wouldn't make her upset. But if she saw this other girl as discussed previously do it, she would be mad. ????? My wife said she told her the same thing and that she didn't understand what that was supposed to mean.
They later bought a home and we would come over to hang out. They would always try and get us to stay over for the night. We only lived 20 minutes away. They always had that welcome mat layed out though and never failed to ask or suggest.
An incident then occured, apparently, between them and the third OTHER couple above. There was a falling out. Apparently my friend in this third coupling wanted to watch her and his wife togeather while he and my other friend watched. :nervous:
I never would have pegged this third couple to do something like this. The first couple claim they were put off and scared by this. This was only after my wife and I asked them what was wrong between them. I've never gotten the story from my other buddy. They don't communicate much anymore. Just kind of ironic that i'm thinking the issues are coming from one place and then they supposedly come from another.
Here's what I think. I think these friends of ours are into this stuff and actually propositioned the other couple.
I just get a funny vibe from them. (her especially) and he also is the type that would seem to be into this.