"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Birthday Present

Bends

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So, I'm one one those guys (probably like most of you) who don't think a girl should be spoiled with gifts and stuff. However, I believe her birthday is an exception.
I met this girl a few weeks before I went to study abroad this autumn. At first I just saw her as something fun before I left but I the more time I spent with her, the more I liked her and I'm afraid she now has become somewhat of a "oneitis". We speak on the phone sometimes and I know that she misses me just as much as I miss her. But we have both agreed on that we are allowed to see other people and that we're NOT a couple. Now, I wont be goming home again until the beginning of May and she's now going to travel Asia for a few months. I know she'll be approached a lot of times during that time...
Her birthday is in December and I want to send her something little so that she'll keep thinking of me until we meet again. Suggestions?
I know, I shouldn't be worrying that much about her and try to see other girls while I'm in a different country and all that. But it's hard man!
So, what do you say?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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nvictor

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What I've learned: girlfriend = gift, she deserve it; not a girlfriend = she must show that she deserve it.
 

Cod3r

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A card with something simple in it...

"You know what, I like you"



-Cod3r
 
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