"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Birthday Present

Bends

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So, I'm one one those guys (probably like most of you) who don't think a girl should be spoiled with gifts and stuff. However, I believe her birthday is an exception.
I met this girl a few weeks before I went to study abroad this autumn. At first I just saw her as something fun before I left but I the more time I spent with her, the more I liked her and I'm afraid she now has become somewhat of a "oneitis". We speak on the phone sometimes and I know that she misses me just as much as I miss her. But we have both agreed on that we are allowed to see other people and that we're NOT a couple. Now, I wont be goming home again until the beginning of May and she's now going to travel Asia for a few months. I know she'll be approached a lot of times during that time...
Her birthday is in December and I want to send her something little so that she'll keep thinking of me until we meet again. Suggestions?
I know, I shouldn't be worrying that much about her and try to see other girls while I'm in a different country and all that. But it's hard man!
So, what do you say?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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nvictor

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What I've learned: girlfriend = gift, she deserve it; not a girlfriend = she must show that she deserve it.
 

Cod3r

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A card with something simple in it...

"You know what, I like you"



-Cod3r
 
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