"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Biggest Problem to hit my game for awhile!

ryanvalmont

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Ok the situation is that i was basically stalked and obsessed over by this disabled girl who i've spent the last month or 2 trying to get rid of.

Now i've finally got rid of her,my wingman which is my brother...is now friends with her and will be going out with her and her friends which leaves me without my wingman.

So basically what i'm trying to say is that all through my career (AHHAHA) ...is that i've never really gone out on my own and feel abit insecure about it.

Also i can't hook up with any friends as there either busy or don't really go after girls like i do....and they would probally bring me down to there afc lvl.

So all i'm asking for the people on the board who go to clubs solo...is just a few MAIN tips....yeah i can do a search and i'm just about to.

I just wanted to know if there's anything really important about soloing i should know i do?.

thx
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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spider_007

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when you go help the other guys (who have no friends) to "keep the wall from falling over" make sure you keep your back straight, and knees slightly bent, so that you don't end up with a back problem lather on:)
 

ryanvalmont

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As i'm on my own i don't really know if i should be just stood at the bar or just stood there whatching the dance floor or moving about the place?....

I know it sounds bad,but i very very little experience of going out alone and am alittle....very very little bit insecure.

Confidence isn't an issue as i have plenty...but going solo does make me feel slightly awkward.
 

cave dweller

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ok.......

Hey,

If you don't feel like you can handle it on your own take the 'wingman' and his girl with you.

BTW, you don't need a 'wingman'.

cave dweller
 

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I go to clubs alone all the time, and I always pick up girls or get lots of bumpin and grinding going on. Ok so here is what I do. I never go too early because you don’t want to be spotted alone just standing there with no one around you, so I usually go when it starts to fill up like around 10:30-12pm so that when I get in, there is an illusion of you being with other people and go to a club that you know is going to be busy so that you will have lots of people around you. When I get in I always buy a drink to make me feel more comfortable. I then start shuffling my way through the crowd of beautiful girls chatting them up, asking if they want to dance. Last time I was at a club alone I picked up this hot Vietnamese girl by just talking to her, we made out the whole night. And if the girls asks if you came with any friends just say "They're somewhere with their girlfriends" Usually the girl wont ask you where your friends are because she is there for the same reason you are and that is to meet single guys or in your case girls (hopefully) lol.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ryanvalmont

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Good points,but the thing with buying alcohol to releax myself is that i've stopped drinking alcohol from last week when i was really bad after drinking it.
 
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