"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ryanvalmont

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Ok the situation is that i was basically stalked and obsessed over by this disabled girl who i've spent the last month or 2 trying to get rid of.

Now i've finally got rid of her,my wingman which is my brother...is now friends with her and will be going out with her and her friends which leaves me without my wingman.

So basically what i'm trying to say is that all through my career (AHHAHA) ...is that i've never really gone out on my own and feel abit insecure about it.

Also i can't hook up with any friends as there either busy or don't really go after girls like i do....and they would probally bring me down to there afc lvl.

So all i'm asking for the people on the board who go to clubs solo...is just a few MAIN tips....yeah i can do a search and i'm just about to.

I just wanted to know if there's anything really important about soloing i should know i do?.

thx
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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spider_007

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when you go help the other guys (who have no friends) to "keep the wall from falling over" make sure you keep your back straight, and knees slightly bent, so that you don't end up with a back problem lather on:)
 

ryanvalmont

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As i'm on my own i don't really know if i should be just stood at the bar or just stood there whatching the dance floor or moving about the place?....

I know it sounds bad,but i very very little experience of going out alone and am alittle....very very little bit insecure.

Confidence isn't an issue as i have plenty...but going solo does make me feel slightly awkward.
 

cave dweller

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ok.......

Hey,

If you don't feel like you can handle it on your own take the 'wingman' and his girl with you.

BTW, you don't need a 'wingman'.

cave dweller
 

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I go to clubs alone all the time, and I always pick up girls or get lots of bumpin and grinding going on. Ok so here is what I do. I never go too early because you don’t want to be spotted alone just standing there with no one around you, so I usually go when it starts to fill up like around 10:30-12pm so that when I get in, there is an illusion of you being with other people and go to a club that you know is going to be busy so that you will have lots of people around you. When I get in I always buy a drink to make me feel more comfortable. I then start shuffling my way through the crowd of beautiful girls chatting them up, asking if they want to dance. Last time I was at a club alone I picked up this hot Vietnamese girl by just talking to her, we made out the whole night. And if the girls asks if you came with any friends just say "They're somewhere with their girlfriends" Usually the girl wont ask you where your friends are because she is there for the same reason you are and that is to meet single guys or in your case girls (hopefully) lol.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Good points,but the thing with buying alcohol to releax myself is that i've stopped drinking alcohol from last week when i was really bad after drinking it.
 
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