"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
bigger pecs?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Quiksilver
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When you bench 315 deep, your pecs will be fine.
+ What Quik said.
You want bigger pecs? Do more pec work. Try dips. Full weight (you body), start out low and increase reps every workout.
p.s i know this is thread hijacking but do you call or text a girl after you've gotten her number? (for the first date)
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Do some dumbell presses at an angle if you're feeling adventurous. Instead of straight up working your shoulders, do it at more of an angle so you'll hit the chest a little.
Like this: http://www.ironbody.it/assets/galleries/158/dumbell_incline_press_.jpg
Adjust the angle to whatever is comfortable, and keep your feet planted on the ground always!
darkstarrr
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2 sets flat bench bar 10 reps then 7 reps
2 sets incline bench bar 10 reps then 7 reps
2 sets flat bench dumbell 10 reps then 7 reps
2 sets incline bench dumbell 10 reps then 7 reps
and please.. don't let people talking about benching astronomical amounts of weigh discourage you. the ultimate goals (for me) are feeling good, looking good, being healthy, and being confident. you don't need to be a bloated moose to achieve those ends.
good luck with your pec.
PeeGee said:
thanks! will do.Also, a lot of people have been saying do normal benches, your pecs will fill out. I really don't find this to be true. Lots of flat benching will develop your pecs to be a lot more rounded. (Not that it's a bad thing) I find incline benches, incline dbell presses build the clavicle area a lot more (collarbone area) making you look a lot more solid up top.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
http://www.youtube.com/user/BodyPerformanceTVEctomorph said:alright thanks guys imma try inclined, and if u got more tips, keep em' coming
I.A.F.Y.B.
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I called her, no answer so i left a text with what i wanted to call about. No answer and it's been 10+ hours. Either she's not interested or she hasn't seen the message. Can i go ahead and make other plans for that day?PeeGee said:
To the OP, Also, it's form > weight. increasing your numbers is good and will increase your strength but it won't be nearly as good as building your weights up slowly through proper form. Remember to bring that bar really low (I like to either touch/almost touch my upper pec area) to really build the muscle up there.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
darkstarrr
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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Yess it can work like that. My lat on the left side has always been smaller and seemingly less developed than the other side. Part of this could be genetics but part of it is defnitely from the right side of my body being dominant (used more often or prioritized etc).Alle_Gory said:
Sometimes my right arm/shoulder will swell up a little when I am on the phone too long so I have been making a habit out of holding the phone with the left hand (no funny jokes guys hehe), and using speaker phone when I can.