Big Thanks to guys on DJ forum

[Trail Mix-A-Lot]

All,

So far I've been more of a lurker than a contributor. This forum continues to be a huge help as I move forward. Without getting into the boring details, more-or-less every female relationship I've had, including a marriage, has ended in disaster. The one common thread in all the failures has been AFC behavior and utter lack of confidence on my part. My most recent debacle really pulled the rug out from under me. I'm still recovering from it. It's taken every ounce determination I have to refrain from contacting this chick.

It's been amazing to see how changing my AFC habits have made an insane difference in all aspects of my life. You guys are dead right about everything. It is a little scary to start life at 38 though.

Thanks!

T.

 

[Bible_Belt]

It is a little scary to start life at 38 though.

Most guys never start at all. Better late than never, so good for you.

 

[BLebowski]

Yay to what the OP said. (Re)starter here too at 34 and am looking forward to building my new life, singing my own tune.

 

[DJDamage]

Without getting into the boring details, more-or-less every female relationship I've had, including a marriage, has ended in disaster. The one common thread in all the failures has been AFC behavior and utter lack of confidence on my part. My most recent debacle really pulled the rug out from under me. I'm still recovering from it.

Actually the details of your story are not boring, its what makes sosuave great because we can learn from each others mistakes. If you have the time to post all your story in great detail, it would be beneficial for everyone here to read and may also help you out too.

 

[MikeYikes122]

Actually the details of your story are not boring, its what makes sosuave great because we can learn from each others mistakes. If you have the time to post all your story in great detail, it would be beneficial for everyone here to read and may also help you out too.

I agree. I love reading people's stories. I almost started a thread for this last week.

 

[jophil28]

All,

It is a little scary to start life at 38 though.

Thanks!

T.

Nah !
Mike - I started my conversion at 50 so you ,at 38, are 12 years ahaed of me.
Enjoy your new life and have fun with women.

BTW - do NOT contact that last disaster. Start over with a fresh one.
Perhaps some day, you will run into your most recent ex and you could 'game ' her. You need lots of practice before you could do that successfully .
Congrats on seeing the light...

 

[STR8UP]

My exit from the matrix began when I was in my late 20's - early 30's, but even if i were just starting now at 36 it would be a positive step that would change my life for the better.

It's never too late. NEVER.

 

[Aenigma]

My exit from the matrix began when I was in my late 20's - early 30's, but even if i were just starting now at 36 it would be a positive step that would change my life for the better.

It's never too late. NEVER.

When did you get started with business and investing STR8UP?

 

[STR8UP]

When did you get started with business and investing STR8UP?

Early-mid 20's.

My transition from THAT matrix began earlier. It's possible that early realization about money helped me in my understanding of the other matrix, the one we speak of here.

 

[Knight's Cross]

Trail,
Good on Ya, unplugging is just as hard as Officer school was to me.
Keep us posted. DO NOT GET AFC and take it from your last..A friend of mine told me today that he thought the reason I stayed in my last relationship was because I didn't BELIEVE I deserved better. So true...stupid, but true. So my advice...don't do it. You be the prize. Believe it. Become it.
KC

 

[joekerr31]

It's been amazing to see how changing my AFC habits have made an insane difference in all aspects of my life. You guys are dead right about everything. It is a little scary to start life at 38 though.

please please please, whatever you do, CHANGE your attitude that you are 'starting' life at 38. you aren't.

you are starting down a new path, but you would never have found this path if you hadn't gone down whatever path you had for the previous 38 years.

i know a lot of guys find it empowering to frame things as 'starting over', but i think thats a big mistake. they like to see it as cutting lose of their past - as though their past was a bad thing.

but your past is NEVER a bad thing. for better or worse, its what got you HERE. be thankful you had that past and that it lead you here.

life is an interesting journey, and most of it is spend lost and confused. many spend it so until their dying day.

so look back on your past with appreciation that it was an essential part of the journey. those years were not wasted, they were simply the first half of your journey.

now you're entering the second half of yoru journey - and from the sounds of it, it looks like the latter half is going to be quite interesting

 

[MikeYikes122]

please please please, whatever you do, CHANGE your attitude that you are 'starting' life at 38. you aren't.

you are starting down a new path, but you would never have found this path if you hadn't gone down whatever path you had for the previous 38 years.

i know a lot of guys find it empowering to frame things as 'starting over', but i think thats a big mistake. they like to see it as cutting lose of their past - as though their past was a bad thing.

but your past is NEVER a bad thing. for better or worse, its what got you HERE. be thankful you had that past and that it lead you here.

life is an interesting journey, and most of it is spend lost and confused. many spend it so until their dying day.

so look back on your past with appreciation that it was an essential part of the journey. those years were not wasted, they were simply the first half of your journey.

now you're entering the second half of yoru journey - and from the sounds of it, it looks like the latter half is going to be quite interesting

I agree with you Joe.

I'm a lot younger than him, but I used to be embarrassed of my past like that and thought of my AFC days as almost a completely different life. I never told anyone about them and used to try to not even think about them. My real name isn't even Mike, I just made created this handle because I didn't even want anyone on here to know what my real name was four years ago when I made the account.

I've since learned that frame isn't the correct one. I think about my past now and talk about it if someone asks. It's nice to know that my biggest issues are behind me.

At 38, that is still a comforting feeling/thought. You're not even halfway through life and you've solved or at least started solving your biggest issue.

 

[Last Man Standing]

It is good to hear that 30-somethings are getting out of the hor/homo Matrix!!! Flee!!!!

There is a war on the masculine male!!! If you want to overcome - embrace manhood and reject the hor and the effeminate male!!!