"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Big problem.. help me out

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I've been with this girl for 2 months now, secretly. And I like her.
The problem is, I was at her house tonight. I went in through her window.
Then her brother came in the room, he heard us I guess.
On my way home, his older brother calls me.

They met me outside my house, and asked me for how long this had been going on. And told me that it ends here. I cannot see her anymore or there would be big problems.


Now what should I do? Any suggestions? this girl likes me ALOT and i like her too.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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wtf?

You're 21 and sneaking in this girls window..seeing her secretly as you put it. Why? What are the circumstances? The whole thing just seems pretty weird to me..

Tell her brothers to back of and that it's none of their business. Oh yeah...walk through her door the next time...:rolleyes:
 

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Originally posted by \O/
wtf?

You're 21 and sneaking in this girls window..seeing her secretly as you put it. Why? What are the circumstances? The whole thing just seems pretty weird to me..

Tell her brothers to back of and that it's none of their business. Oh yeah...walk through her door the next time...:rolleyes:

She is 18. She hadn't been in school all week so she had to be home at 10 pm and sleep.

That's why I sneaked in.
How can I say "none of your business?" when its her brother man. It's disrespect. Plus.. that would get me in a fight with them, should I fight someones brothers? someone that I like? no good solution
 

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Originally posted by rapsta

How can I say "none of your business?" when its her brother man. It's disrespect. Plus.. that would get me in a fight with them, should I fight someones brothers? someone that I like? no good solution
I'm not saying you should get into a fight with them. I don't see it as disrespect when you tell them that it's between you and this girl. She is old enough to decide for herself who she wants to date. If anything, THEY are disrespecting their sister...

The question is; why do these guys have a problem with you seeing their sister?
 

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Bumping this up and adding that..

The reason her brothers don't want her to be with me, is because her brothers have heard stuff about me being a "player", not giving a shyt about women, hitting them etc.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You let your reputation precede you into a closed environment, mistake.

You can either stop using windows, get down on the girl to deal with it herself on the inside and talk to these brothers,

you could drive it further underground, its easy to hook her up out the house and not get caught,

or you can walk away.

Me, I'd tell the girl to stop this **** coming your way or you can't be doing with it anymore, and give the brothers a piece of your mind. If she can't deal with it it ain't your problem.

I never stopped my sister seeing anyone at any age. I don't even understand why some brothers do it, and frankly I find it kinda creepy.
 

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Good reply nectarine, thanks bro.
anyone else think they got any better advice?
 

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Originally posted by rapsta
anyone else think they got any better advice?
Don't hit women...?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I was being serious....

Dude, realize some families won't let the daughter/sister go out with a guy who is a known player or even has a name for phisically abusing women. I don't know how they handle things in yall's houses, but you came into my place through the window after we expressly told you to stay away, and you're risking some srious beating.
 

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Well bro how about stepping up and putting your neck on the line... What I mean by this is: 1. Tell her what’s going down so you don't look like a jerk 2. Get her and her brother together and talk it over (he can’t beat you while his sis is there) 3. Tell her bro that you have feelings for his sis and that everyone makes mistakes and that your not the ******* you used to be (if they are just rumors just tell him that they are a bunch of BS, if they are true don't lie cause if you do when you break up he is going to come down on you like a ton of bricks).

I have a lil' sis and I love her to bits, thing is I would want to be reassured that she is not dating an ******* that treats her badly or is just after her panties...

Also remember when you break up with this girl don't screw it up because if you do break her heart by being a jerk her brother will break your jaw for the same reason...

ne way hope it all goes well

Lets Rock n' Roll

Amethyst

P.D. and if things get outta hand don't forget to duck Xp
 

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Oh and I forgot stop going in through her window thats just plain creepy...
 

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I've never hidden a relationship from anyone (unless I'm messing around with a girl with a boyfriend but thats a different matter). It's fairly easy to charm her parents and brothers into thinking that you are a decent guy.

Stop sneaking out and go through the front door.
 

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Word amethyst thats some golden advice right there. Thanks alot man.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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