Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Big problem.. help me out

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I've been with this girl for 2 months now, secretly. And I like her.
The problem is, I was at her house tonight. I went in through her window.
Then her brother came in the room, he heard us I guess.
On my way home, his older brother calls me.

They met me outside my house, and asked me for how long this had been going on. And told me that it ends here. I cannot see her anymore or there would be big problems.


Now what should I do? Any suggestions? this girl likes me ALOT and i like her too.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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wtf?

You're 21 and sneaking in this girls window..seeing her secretly as you put it. Why? What are the circumstances? The whole thing just seems pretty weird to me..

Tell her brothers to back of and that it's none of their business. Oh yeah...walk through her door the next time...:rolleyes:
 

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Originally posted by \O/
wtf?

You're 21 and sneaking in this girls window..seeing her secretly as you put it. Why? What are the circumstances? The whole thing just seems pretty weird to me..

Tell her brothers to back of and that it's none of their business. Oh yeah...walk through her door the next time...:rolleyes:

She is 18. She hadn't been in school all week so she had to be home at 10 pm and sleep.

That's why I sneaked in.
How can I say "none of your business?" when its her brother man. It's disrespect. Plus.. that would get me in a fight with them, should I fight someones brothers? someone that I like? no good solution
 

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Originally posted by rapsta

How can I say "none of your business?" when its her brother man. It's disrespect. Plus.. that would get me in a fight with them, should I fight someones brothers? someone that I like? no good solution
I'm not saying you should get into a fight with them. I don't see it as disrespect when you tell them that it's between you and this girl. She is old enough to decide for herself who she wants to date. If anything, THEY are disrespecting their sister...

The question is; why do these guys have a problem with you seeing their sister?
 

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Bumping this up and adding that..

The reason her brothers don't want her to be with me, is because her brothers have heard stuff about me being a "player", not giving a shyt about women, hitting them etc.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You let your reputation precede you into a closed environment, mistake.

You can either stop using windows, get down on the girl to deal with it herself on the inside and talk to these brothers,

you could drive it further underground, its easy to hook her up out the house and not get caught,

or you can walk away.

Me, I'd tell the girl to stop this **** coming your way or you can't be doing with it anymore, and give the brothers a piece of your mind. If she can't deal with it it ain't your problem.

I never stopped my sister seeing anyone at any age. I don't even understand why some brothers do it, and frankly I find it kinda creepy.
 

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Good reply nectarine, thanks bro.
anyone else think they got any better advice?
 

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Originally posted by rapsta
anyone else think they got any better advice?
Don't hit women...?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I was being serious....

Dude, realize some families won't let the daughter/sister go out with a guy who is a known player or even has a name for phisically abusing women. I don't know how they handle things in yall's houses, but you came into my place through the window after we expressly told you to stay away, and you're risking some srious beating.
 

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Well bro how about stepping up and putting your neck on the line... What I mean by this is: 1. Tell her what’s going down so you don't look like a jerk 2. Get her and her brother together and talk it over (he can’t beat you while his sis is there) 3. Tell her bro that you have feelings for his sis and that everyone makes mistakes and that your not the ******* you used to be (if they are just rumors just tell him that they are a bunch of BS, if they are true don't lie cause if you do when you break up he is going to come down on you like a ton of bricks).

I have a lil' sis and I love her to bits, thing is I would want to be reassured that she is not dating an ******* that treats her badly or is just after her panties...

Also remember when you break up with this girl don't screw it up because if you do break her heart by being a jerk her brother will break your jaw for the same reason...

ne way hope it all goes well

Lets Rock n' Roll

Amethyst

P.D. and if things get outta hand don't forget to duck Xp
 

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Oh and I forgot stop going in through her window thats just plain creepy...
 

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I've never hidden a relationship from anyone (unless I'm messing around with a girl with a boyfriend but thats a different matter). It's fairly easy to charm her parents and brothers into thinking that you are a decent guy.

Stop sneaking out and go through the front door.
 

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Word amethyst thats some golden advice right there. Thanks alot man.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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