"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Big LTR Problem

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So I've been in a relationship for about three months. Here's the thing, I'm falling for her. Its got the the point to where she's asked me if I loved her. I told her that i didn't know and that i was confused and all this is new to me. She told me she was confused too. The thing that bothers me that she is a big skeptic when it comes to love, she is always sayin how people are too young to be in love and all this stuff and my thing is "w/e happens, happens". Plus I want our relationship to flourish and that doesn't help. So like two days ago we were talking and i forgot what led to this, i asked her what was her issue with love and to answer me honestly and she says that she's scared to get hurt and that what was the point in falling in love if you know the relationship is going to end. I told her that i would never hurt her. Then she topped it off with a ''but we're too young to be in love" thing. That just burst my bubble on the whole thing, i admit i felt down. Then i asked her "what would you do if i did tell you that i loved you" and she told me that she would probably break up with me because it wasn't mutual. (i didn't see that one coming) I guess she saw some shock in my face because she told me kinda sad "well now you probably think i'll never fall in love with YOU". That gave me hope but it also made me really confused after all she had said. Then i just started bein C&F to lighten the mood and i left on a light note.:)

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So my question is what is goin on, what is goin on in her head? Has this happened to any of you? What should i do because i dont want to next her?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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she almost sounds like a man. with the little committment thing. I just think that she wants to keep the relationship light and not too intense. But usually the opposite happens. tough call here. it sounds like it could get confusing. remember your a man, keep it simple. if stuff gets too messed up just get out of there.
 
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