"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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big crush on her...

rsofa

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Hello! :)

My story:
Saw a really pretty girl, and found her on facebook. First day she was like whatever, then a week later we talked some and really had some fun. The other day i mannaged to get her out on a drink...thats really amazing that she even said yes to a complete stranger on facebook ... it was kind of awkward..not too quiet though. She was shy, we even look into eachothers eyes a bit, but then looked away or she just started smiling :)
Now im obsessed I just wanna see her again, talk to her anything, im being too annoying andtalk with her 2 much...
What should i do? I cant help myself shes on my mind 24/7.

What do you guys do when you get into this? What should I do to not think about her...leave her alone for a couple of days and then maybe invite her out again?


Thanks :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TheMusic

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Dedicate yourself to your hobbies for a few days. Too much contact in the beginning is a bad start (had to learn this the hard way).
 

rsofa

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TheMusic said:
Dedicate yourself to your hobbies for a few days. Too much contact in the beginning is a bad start (had to learn this the hard way).
I know!
When we came home 5hours later i said if she wants to go anywhere (she actually said come to "a place" im there with my friends...it was raining like hell and also i was too afraid to meet her friends.
The other day i saw her in the disco (she was too wasted :/ )
Then the other day I asked her out and she said she has too much of a hangover... but still there were like a ton of dumb booring uselles conversations between those events...
I kind of f***ed up already a bit , If i slow down now maybe there is still hope..

Yea hobbies will help and no more facebook :D
Thanks, it is a lot easyer to talk with someone about it then just hold it in :)
 

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Its best to go from event to event, invite to invite. That means not having small talk conversations in between those. If you want to text her but you have nothing to say ("Hey whats up?" texts...) just dont send it.

If youre excited about someone, you can admit it, just admit it in the context of the next invitation to meet up.
 

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can I get some help on how to invite her out this week?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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