"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Biatch wants to use my scanner is it AFC?
- Thread starter Ratman
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
If you're just her friend, who cares, do it if it's convient for you or if she offers you lunch or something afterwards. If you intend on pursuing a relationship, forget her, plenty of people have scanners nowadays, don't be her bitch boy if it's out of your way. Same goes for driving girls around just because they need a ride. You aren't a chauffer or her maid.
yepOriginally posted by Ratman
This sounds stupid
if it isn't too much hassle for you, let her
Your over analyzing to much. If you really feel uncomfortable about letting her use it, tell her to go to kinkos. But you gotta think of the postitive of this. You get her in your house/room, you can do neg hits, kino all kinds of stuff. Its only AFC, if you act like an AFC.Originally posted by Ratman
This sounds stupid but:
She rings me up and says she needs to use my scanner. Would i be AFC if i let her?
triple_ultima
Senior Don Juan
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
CALL HER UP AND TELL HER YOU AREN'T HER B1TCHY LITTLE PUPPY DOG, THEN GO TO HER HOUSE AND SCREAM AT HER SOME MORE. THROW A SLAP OR TWO IN HER FACE. YOU CAN'T LET THIS KIND OF DISRESPECT GO UNNOTICED.
DJ4LYFE
CableLight
Master Don Juan
We're talking about scanners here, people. Does anyone else see something strange with this picture? Dude, she's asking to use a piece of office equipment, why are you so phobic about it?
If you let her use it (might as well) and you're all paranoid about it being some huge plot to make you her b!tch, then just act really busy while shes at your house. She wont be able to use her voodoo on you to make you do her project for her and it'll look like you could care less about the situation (which you shouldnt be over analyzing anyway).
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Nicely put yo. DJ OR DIE!!Originally posted by Porky
THE SCANNER REPRESENTS THE LEASH THAT SHE IS TRYING TO THROW AROUND YOUR NECK.
CALL HER UP AND TELL HER YOU AREN'T HER B1TCHY LITTLE PUPPY DOG, THEN GO TO HER HOUSE AND SCREAM AT HER SOME MORE. THROW A SLAP OR TWO IN HER FACE. YOU CAN'T LET THIS KIND OF DISRESPECT GO UNNOTICED.
DJ4LYFE
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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no, but may i suggest suicide for such a retarded question?Originally posted by Ratman
This sounds stupid but:
She rings me up and says she needs to use my scanner. Would i be AFC if i let her?
"This girl asked to borrow my pencil, is it AFC to let her?"
"HB8 forgot her lunch money, is it AFC to give her some fries?"
"My g/f got a flat tire when I was riding shotgun, was it AFC to help her fix it?"
Fvcking christ. I think some of you need to look up "COMMON COURTESY" in the dictionary.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
maybe if you talked with girls a little more, you wouldnt ask such stupid questions.
Originally posted by undesputable
is this how much you come into contact with girls? you talk to them so little that you have to ask a question like should i let her use my scanner?
maybe if you talked with girls a little more, you wouldnt ask such stupid questions.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.