She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
yepOriginally posted by Ratman
This sounds stupid
Your over analyzing to much. If you really feel uncomfortable about letting her use it, tell her to go to kinkos. But you gotta think of the postitive of this. You get her in your house/room, you can do neg hits, kino all kinds of stuff. Its only AFC, if you act like an AFC.Originally posted by Ratman
This sounds stupid but:
She rings me up and says she needs to use my scanner. Would i be AFC if i let her?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Nicely put yo. DJ OR DIE!!Originally posted by Porky
THE SCANNER REPRESENTS THE LEASH THAT SHE IS TRYING TO THROW AROUND YOUR NECK.
CALL HER UP AND TELL HER YOU AREN'T HER B1TCHY LITTLE PUPPY DOG, THEN GO TO HER HOUSE AND SCREAM AT HER SOME MORE. THROW A SLAP OR TWO IN HER FACE. YOU CAN'T LET THIS KIND OF DISRESPECT GO UNNOTICED.
DJ4LYFE
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
no, but may i suggest suicide for such a retarded question?Originally posted by Ratman
This sounds stupid but:
She rings me up and says she needs to use my scanner. Would i be AFC if i let her?
Originally posted by undesputable
is this how much you come into contact with girls? you talk to them so little that you have to ask a question like should i let her use my scanner?
maybe if you talked with girls a little more, you wouldnt ask such stupid questions.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.