"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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My gf is bi, and I told her that I am cool with her doing stuff with girls as long as I know about it, but Im not cool with her having a girlfriend. When I told her this, she got mad at me but never told the reason why.

If you had a girlfriend who is bisexual, would you consider her messing around with girls as cheating? Would you consider her having a girlfriend as cheating?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by Kidd
My gf is bi, and I told her that I am cool with her doing stuff with girls as long as I know about it, but Im not cool with her having a girlfriend. When I told her this, she got mad at me but never told the reason why.

If you had a girlfriend who is bisexual, would you consider her messing around with girls as cheating? Would you consider her having a girlfriend as cheating?
Shes not bi, she's just confused. 16 is too young to know you're bi.

If my girlfriend wanted to kiss some other girl, I'd be like "sure.... except from that point on we're not dating anymore".

I will not tolerate that sh*t, that's disrespectful to me.
 

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Similar but opposite

I have a female friend who has a girlfriend and we're all living togeather.

She's the same, she wants a boyfriend and a girlfriend. All I can say is that it's complicated and as much as I love the girl and quite like the other girl, it's too ****ed up and I wouldn't recommend it.

You really have to see the other girl as a guy - I know it's hard at first - but that's how she will seem to you eventually. Once that happens the relationship is over. My advice is to walk away now and preserve your dignity.

I know that sucks.

But definately get a threesome first. You'll regret that if you don't ;-)
 

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Originally posted by Kidd
My gf is bi, and I told her that I am cool with her doing stuff with girls as long as I know about it, but Im not cool with her having a girlfriend. When I told her this, she got mad at me but never told the reason why.

If you had a girlfriend who is bisexual, would you consider her messing around with girls as cheating? Would you consider her having a girlfriend as cheating?
personally, i wouldn't mind at all, until she doesn't seem to prefer her over me. anyway, that's just me... probably, most guys wouldn't accept their girlfriend having another girlfriend
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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dude, setup a 3 way with this chic, and work angles on other chics.

its a no brainer.

I have a bi chic in my stable, and we hang out alot and i'm trying to work the 3way angle with her hot roommate.
 

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Originally posted by Kidd
If you had a girlfriend who is bisexual, would you consider her messing around with girls as cheating? Would you consider her having a girlfriend as cheating?
Yeah.
 

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Depends what your intentions are. If it's pureply physical with her, then sure, let it slide. Hell, go for gold and try for that threesome.

If there are deeper feelings however, it's not acceptable. The fact that her "lover" of such might be a female, doesn't change the fact that it's not YOU. Lay out what you want first, then try to understand what she wants. You will get your answer soon enough.
 

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Everyone knows you're entitled to one boyfriend and one girlfriend, whoever you are. So you shouldn't get upset about this.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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