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Bi Girl agreed to a FMF 3 way. Advice.

Datinglife26

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Been seeing this Bi girl for a couple of weeks.

She is 40/60 into girls/guys and is down for a threesome. Perfect because its high on my bucket list.

We hang out/hook up and get on like friends so I think its the perfect "no jealousy" set up for a threesome.

Anyone done one before and have any advice on how you find a 3rd girl and when you do, how do you go about your evening before you get busy?
 

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You're asking for advice on how to choreograph a 3-way.

This may take a while. LOTS to cover.
More like the pre-way. Hanging out etc. Drinks, chill with music. **** like that.

I am cool with letting it progress in the bedroom.
 

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3-ways are way over rated. Go ahead and do it. But understand when this happens, you (the male) is a sideline participant. In most cases, women agree to do this because they are excited about being with another chick, the man is only there so that it isn't a complete lesbian thing. You are there to tell them what to do so that they are not responsible for what is happening.

You tell them what to do, then sit back and watch and wait for them to bring you in, and just be ready when that happens. Just understand that none of this is for you... it is for them.

If the chicks were interested in banging you, then this wouldn't be a 3-way. You are a supporting player in this little performance.
 

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3-ways are way over rated. Go ahead and do it. But understand when this happens, you (the male) is a sideline participant. In most cases, women agree to do this because they are excited about being with another chick, the man is only there so that it isn't a complete lesbian thing. You are there to tell them what to do so that they are not responsible for what is happening.

You tell them what to do, then sit back and watch and wait for them to bring you in, and just be ready when that happens. Just understand that none of this is for you... it is for them.

If the chicks were interested in banging you, then this wouldn't be a 3-way. You are a supporting player in this little performance.
Wrong way to go about it.

OP, what you need to do is practice being in control. Make sure when the bi girl is next to you, and you go out on the hunt, that she communicates she is submissive to you. Let her hang onto your arm and look coyly at the other women. You can let her roam about but make sure you have her under control.

That way, the other girl will understand who is boss and allow you to coordinate the threesome.

This allows you to position them in whatever position, which will finally lead to everybody's maximum enjoyment.

For example you could bang one in doggy while she licks the other one out. The one she licks out could get up and lick the one's pvssy while you bang her.

It all starts off with creating the impression and cementing in the extra girl's mind, that your girl follows your lead in the first place.

Of course, since it is a threesome, make sure both you and the bi girl are in agreeance in who the extra girl will be.
 

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Wrong way to go about it.

OP, what you need to do is practice being in control. Make sure when the bi girl is next to you, and you go out on the hunt, that she communicates she is submissive to you. Let her hang onto your arm and look coyly at the other women. You can let her roam about but make sure you have her under control.

That way, the other girl will understand who is boss and allow you to coordinate the threesome.

This allows you to position them in whatever position, which will finally lead to everybody's maximum enjoyment.

For example you could bang one in doggy while she licks the other one out. The one she licks out could get up and lick the one's pvssy while you bang her.

It all starts off with creating the impression and cementing in the extra girl's mind, that your girl follows your lead in the first place.

Of course, since it is a threesome, make sure both you and the bi girl are in agreeance in who the extra girl will be.
There you go OP, two distinctly different approaches.... welcome to the Sosuave forum. Understand what works for you isn't going to work for everyone. I suppose my approach to this is rooted in a fact that I really don't like 3-ways. In college it was all fun and new... but after 30 plus years of dating, there is very little that I have seen...

It also depends on the women involved... just play it by ear and adjust accordingly. But one thing I will agree with what @Chamber36 posted is that chicks are NOT going to tell you what they want... it's trial and error, just do what works for you and you'll do fine.

These things are nothing like what you see in a porno... it's honestly not that great... but that's me. Do what works for you.
 

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3-ways are way over rated. Go ahead and do it. But understand when this happens, you (the male) is a sideline participant. In most cases, women agree to do this because they are excited about being with another chick, the man is only there so that it isn't a complete lesbian thing. You are there to tell them what to do so that they are not responsible for what is happening.

You tell them what to do, then sit back and watch and wait for them to bring you in, and just be ready when that happens. Just understand that none of this is for you... it is for them.

If the chicks were interested in banging you, then this wouldn't be a 3-way. You are a supporting player in this little performance.
Bi girl is submissive to me even though she is not naturally so.
Set the tone from the start that I am in charge. She loves it.

My real plan is to make them eat each other out while I take turns on them both.
Definitely more of a telling them what to do thing.

Never done it and if I can have two girls blowing me at the same time im happy to try lmao
 

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Bi girl is submissive to me even though she is not naturally so.
Set the tone from the start that I am in charge. She loves it.

My real plan is to make them eat each other out while I take turns on them both.
Definitely more of a telling them what to do thing.

Never done it and if I can have two girls blowing me at the same time im happy to try lmao
Keep your pimp hand strong
 

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Been seeing this Bi girl for a couple of weeks.

She is 40/60 into girls/guys and is down for a threesome. Perfect because its high on my bucket list.

We hang out/hook up and get on like friends so I think its the perfect "no jealousy" set up for a threesome.

Anyone done one before and have any advice on how you find a 3rd girl and when you do, how do you go about your evening before you get busy?
Take control/lead. Have her bring the other girl and you are the gatekeeper to say yay or nay. Make her hunt.

And don't complicate the pre-threesome. You all know what you are there for. Drinks and music is simple enough.

Enjoy it!

PS: We expect an update.


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well, in my experience , in order to find a second girl for a threesome:
A) your current girl knows of another chick who is interested. So basically she does all the work.
B) you have banged another bi chick in the past or you're banging her now. You suggest the idea to this girl, if she agrees, you introduce her to the other chick and you all have fun together.
 

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Make sure all three of you vibe well together or else it's not really going to be a true "threesome". It's just going to be you taking turns with them. It's important the third girl is into you AND her.

I've had sex with two women at a time a few times in my life but I wouldn't classify it as a true "threesome" for the reason mentioned above.
 

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I have met some girls that are down but may be too stupid to know 100% what they want. They like to fvck around so could be anywhere next week.

Sometimes they back down if they see you are pulling too easy.

I think you should do it if she wants though. Show her what you can pull.

If you have the right energy you can pull girls with that line even if your girl isn't there.
 

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Been seeing this Bi girl for a couple of weeks.

She is 40/60 into girls/guys and is down for a threesome. Perfect because its high on my bucket list.

We hang out/hook up and get on like friends so I think its the perfect "no jealousy" set up for a threesome.

Anyone done one before and have any advice on how you find a 3rd girl and when you do, how do you go about your evening before you get busy?
It isn't going to be what you thought it was going to be...plus there is a high chance things go south with Bi Girl over it if you don't handle it properly.

I know you are going to want to experience it and that's cool but knowing what I know now it wouldn't be very high on my list of I hadn't experienced it before.
 

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I had a good threesome once. Pretty cool story. Girl I was banging caught me redhanded cheating with some former model chick. I invited her in and convinced her to join.

Yeah, was a lot of fun.
 

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Been seeing this Bi girl for a couple of weeks.

She is 40/60 into girls/guys and is down for a threesome. Perfect because its high on my bucket list.

We hang out/hook up and get on like friends so I think its the perfect "no jealousy" set up for a threesome.

Anyone done one before and have any advice on how you find a 3rd girl and when you do, how do you go about your evening before you get busy?
Tell her to bring another girl and then get the new one to start by sucking you off. But make sure you see a photo first, otherwise she might turn up with a fatty.
 

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I had a good threesome once. Pretty cool story. Girl I was banging caught me redhanded cheating with some former model chick. I invited her in and convinced her to join.

Yeah, was a lot of fun.
Good Job.
 

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Been seeing this Bi girl for a couple of weeks.

She is 40/60 into girls/guys and is down for a threesome. Perfect because its high on my bucket list.

We hang out/hook up and get on like friends so I think its the perfect "no jealousy" set up for a threesome.

Anyone done one before and have any advice on how you find a 3rd girl and when you do, how do you go about your evening before you get busy?
You would be doing a 3some in a decent situation. If you do a 3some in an LTR, you run the risk of the LTR going down the toilet. That would be bad in a married couple. It's less bad in a non-married boyfriend girlfriend couple but still bad.

It's difficult to get a woman to agree to an FMF threesome, so you have an achievement there.

well, in my experience , in order to find a second girl for a threesome:
A) your current girl knows of another chick who is interested. So basically she does all the work.
B) you have banged another bi chick in the past or you're banging her now. You suggest the idea to this girl, if she agrees, you introduce her to the other chick and you all have fun together.
Both of these are better ways to find a third than some of the websites/apps out there for finding 3rds.

Make sure all three of you vibe well together or else it's not really going to be a true "threesome". It's just going to be you taking turns with them. It's important the third girl is into you AND her.

I've had sex with two women at a time a few times in my life but I wouldn't classify it as a true "threesome" for the reason mentioned above.
That's a big challenge of it.
 
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