"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
bf calls me up?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I like the girl, but at the same time she's not quite in my age bracket to date. Anyway, her boyfriend says he's heard a lot about me, and i've never heard of the guy till recently. Anyway, the point is she talks about me quite a bit from what I heard.
She then tells me they are together, and good luck. First off I never mentioned dating her NOW. Then he sends me a txt from her phone last week saying I lost, and I was thinking... I lost at what? I wasnt even trying to steal your woman. I was trying to get to know her.
Anyway we went to a party, she brings him, and I buy his drink for the night after I introduced myself to him. It was $3 for a bottomless cup. She's like... We brought money. I said dont worry about it, its on me. Enjoy your night.
He was a little confused to say the least. Thing was he got pissy with me the night before on the phone for a bit, but he really didnt know why.
So for him he pretty much got owned by me that night, and then I did my business with other girls to say look, i'm not obsessed over your women, and I dont care about you. I said she was pretty, and no more. Plus the guy is a total chump, so it was easy being the better guy.
Could be what he was trying to do. Hey... Hows it going, just wanted to see what's up. Your reaction was...
Just like the boyfriend at the party. He expected me to get all up in his face probably, tell him he needs to settle down, but dude was shocked cause I didnt. Asked him about school, what his degree was, and plans, and then enjoyed the rest of my night. Think I gave his gf a high five and said... Hey, the nights young, dont look all depressed, and then said nothing to her the rest of the night. She thought I would be macking on her all night while he was around or really trying to pick-apart her boyfriend. Instead I talked to all the other girls. Showed I didnt give a rats ass.
So in your case, he was nice to you, and I was nice to him. The boyfriend in my case would never figure out to be the better guy or reverse it.
I dont know, some guys tell you NOT to go for another womans boyfriend. I Dont, but I had started before I knew she had one. I had about a month of getting to know her before I SAW the boyfriend. She never mentioned him till I asked.
Sometimes you just have to read people. I think if you love your man you should be talking about him to others. Just my thought.
Anyway, i've backed off of her, but now I think she is a little upset, but that's good because if she really is interested, she'll make it known more. I planted the seed, and I moved on.
Good luck!
DJ1234
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um....no, negative lol....I think I could kick his @$$, im not worried about that, he's not even really the fighting type...SharinganUser said: