This girl I've had a thing for but wasn't show 100% mutual interest in me, just found out she's been dating someone for little over a month. Why does she still call to hang out? Should I just next her or try taking her from the bf?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Bf but still calls?
- Thread starter cNfny
- Start date
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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How do you intend to next her? It is rather practical to next a girl when you are interested in a girl/woman and she has not interest in you whatsoever. In your case, she is ( or seems) interested in you but the only thing that is preventing you from escalating further is you realized she has a boyfriend. What nice guy? Why don't you call her boyfriend and tell him his girlfriend is hitting on you and that he should make sure she stops hitting on you?
KontrollerX
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This the same chick Reset and I talked with you about?
If it is she's just being persistant in trying to make you her friend cNfny.
She wants all the benefits of your company without giving you what you really want of her.
Its time to next her for good.
From all the posts about her it doesn't seem like she's ever going to give you what you want but just try to keep forcing this friends issue which you don't want.
If it is she's just being persistant in trying to make you her friend cNfny.
She wants all the benefits of your company without giving you what you really want of her.
Its time to next her for good.
From all the posts about her it doesn't seem like she's ever going to give you what you want but just try to keep forcing this friends issue which you don't want.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Show this chick you can out-squat him. that'll be the end of that.
Several problems with your approach to this situation.
One, you are focusing on the girl instead of yourself.
Now, I know that sounds bad until you listen to and understand the phrase "YOU ARE THE PRIZE". I had some gentlemen on this site say that to me several years ago and it made a huge change for me.
What this means is don't call her, be too busy to hang out, and get out there to meet other women. You will find something funny happen, she will either stop calling and you'll forget about her, or (and this is actually more likely,) she'll become intrigued and get interested. OH AND YOU'LL FIND OTHER WOMEN ATTRACTED TO YOU ALSO!
When you do talk to her, talk about interesting stuff and be assertive. She's dating someone else? Great. Make your (new) commanding, interesting and just down right sexual aura something she craves. In a subtle way, communicate that your "hanging" out could end with you just exiting out in to your far more interesting life, or leaving with another girl you just met or doing this girl in the car. Either way, make her think this is all your choice. Excitement in women's minds builds from this. Also, let hints slip that you are dating other girls. This stuff is easy, I've done it.
Looks count too. Change something about your appearence. Good rule of thumb is "If it's something a rock star would do(and I mean a REAL OVER THE TOP ROCK STAR) do it". Create your myth. Leave her intrigued. Make her think you are moving on. She will be attracted. I can almost promise you.
Sorry for the amazing spelling.. ;P
One, you are focusing on the girl instead of yourself.
Now, I know that sounds bad until you listen to and understand the phrase "YOU ARE THE PRIZE". I had some gentlemen on this site say that to me several years ago and it made a huge change for me.
What this means is don't call her, be too busy to hang out, and get out there to meet other women. You will find something funny happen, she will either stop calling and you'll forget about her, or (and this is actually more likely,) she'll become intrigued and get interested. OH AND YOU'LL FIND OTHER WOMEN ATTRACTED TO YOU ALSO!
When you do talk to her, talk about interesting stuff and be assertive. She's dating someone else? Great. Make your (new) commanding, interesting and just down right sexual aura something she craves. In a subtle way, communicate that your "hanging" out could end with you just exiting out in to your far more interesting life, or leaving with another girl you just met or doing this girl in the car. Either way, make her think this is all your choice. Excitement in women's minds builds from this. Also, let hints slip that you are dating other girls. This stuff is easy, I've done it.
Looks count too. Change something about your appearence. Good rule of thumb is "If it's something a rock star would do(and I mean a REAL OVER THE TOP ROCK STAR) do it". Create your myth. Leave her intrigued. Make her think you are moving on. She will be attracted. I can almost promise you.
Sorry for the amazing spelling.. ;P
cNfny, this chick isn't being good TO you. You may want to get with her, but from everything she's done, she's just using you for validation. You should want to be with girls who are good TO you, and treat YOU well. You're being a challenge but I don't think she's going to let it go further. I think it may just be a game to her, and if it is, this means, she's not too concerned with YOUR feelings. If you're going to be pining over a girl, at least have it be towards someone who genuinely cares about you.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Just screw her and toss her. She's not a good person and doesn't deserve more than that.