This girl I've had a thing for but wasn't show 100% mutual interest in me, just found out she's been dating someone for little over a month. Why does she still call to hang out? Should I just next her or try taking her from the bf?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Bf but still calls?
- Thread starter cNfny
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
amoka
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How do you intend to next her? It is rather practical to next a girl when you are interested in a girl/woman and she has not interest in you whatsoever. In your case, she is ( or seems) interested in you but the only thing that is preventing you from escalating further is you realized she has a boyfriend. What nice guy? Why don't you call her boyfriend and tell him his girlfriend is hitting on you and that he should make sure she stops hitting on you?
KontrollerX
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This the same chick Reset and I talked with you about?
If it is she's just being persistant in trying to make you her friend cNfny.
She wants all the benefits of your company without giving you what you really want of her.
Its time to next her for good.
From all the posts about her it doesn't seem like she's ever going to give you what you want but just try to keep forcing this friends issue which you don't want.
If it is she's just being persistant in trying to make you her friend cNfny.
She wants all the benefits of your company without giving you what you really want of her.
Its time to next her for good.
From all the posts about her it doesn't seem like she's ever going to give you what you want but just try to keep forcing this friends issue which you don't want.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Master Bates
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Show this chick you can out-squat him. that'll be the end of that.
Several problems with your approach to this situation.
One, you are focusing on the girl instead of yourself.
Now, I know that sounds bad until you listen to and understand the phrase "YOU ARE THE PRIZE". I had some gentlemen on this site say that to me several years ago and it made a huge change for me.
What this means is don't call her, be too busy to hang out, and get out there to meet other women. You will find something funny happen, she will either stop calling and you'll forget about her, or (and this is actually more likely,) she'll become intrigued and get interested. OH AND YOU'LL FIND OTHER WOMEN ATTRACTED TO YOU ALSO!
When you do talk to her, talk about interesting stuff and be assertive. She's dating someone else? Great. Make your (new) commanding, interesting and just down right sexual aura something she craves. In a subtle way, communicate that your "hanging" out could end with you just exiting out in to your far more interesting life, or leaving with another girl you just met or doing this girl in the car. Either way, make her think this is all your choice. Excitement in women's minds builds from this. Also, let hints slip that you are dating other girls. This stuff is easy, I've done it.
Looks count too. Change something about your appearence. Good rule of thumb is "If it's something a rock star would do(and I mean a REAL OVER THE TOP ROCK STAR) do it". Create your myth. Leave her intrigued. Make her think you are moving on. She will be attracted. I can almost promise you.
Sorry for the amazing spelling.. ;P
One, you are focusing on the girl instead of yourself.
Now, I know that sounds bad until you listen to and understand the phrase "YOU ARE THE PRIZE". I had some gentlemen on this site say that to me several years ago and it made a huge change for me.
What this means is don't call her, be too busy to hang out, and get out there to meet other women. You will find something funny happen, she will either stop calling and you'll forget about her, or (and this is actually more likely,) she'll become intrigued and get interested. OH AND YOU'LL FIND OTHER WOMEN ATTRACTED TO YOU ALSO!
When you do talk to her, talk about interesting stuff and be assertive. She's dating someone else? Great. Make your (new) commanding, interesting and just down right sexual aura something she craves. In a subtle way, communicate that your "hanging" out could end with you just exiting out in to your far more interesting life, or leaving with another girl you just met or doing this girl in the car. Either way, make her think this is all your choice. Excitement in women's minds builds from this. Also, let hints slip that you are dating other girls. This stuff is easy, I've done it.
Looks count too. Change something about your appearence. Good rule of thumb is "If it's something a rock star would do(and I mean a REAL OVER THE TOP ROCK STAR) do it". Create your myth. Leave her intrigued. Make her think you are moving on. She will be attracted. I can almost promise you.
Sorry for the amazing spelling.. ;P
cNfny, this chick isn't being good TO you. You may want to get with her, but from everything she's done, she's just using you for validation. You should want to be with girls who are good TO you, and treat YOU well. You're being a challenge but I don't think she's going to let it go further. I think it may just be a game to her, and if it is, this means, she's not too concerned with YOUR feelings. If you're going to be pining over a girl, at least have it be towards someone who genuinely cares about you.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
SharinganUser
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Just screw her and toss her. She's not a good person and doesn't deserve more than that.