Any poster worth their salt here will have solid content over time. So my advice is read someone’s content. Content based in truth is going to be consistent.
Theory is only going to get you so far. Life experience is a teacher worth paying attention to. Loss is another teacher worth paying attention to and loss is a much harsher teacher than life experience.
There are jaded posters here. There is also solid content that is applicable in the reader’s situation but of course which advice is applicable to who is going to vary depending on an individual’s life circumstances.
While that should be pretty self evident it isn’t always. Sometimes people who are experiencing disappointment in their lives find it easier to find some outside boogeyman to account for their failures rather than do the tough work of self examination.
You are the common denominator in all your relationships. That is true of everyone here. So the logical and rational starting point for figuring out the problem is a hard look in the mirror.
If you aren’t having the success that you want...look at what you are doing. If someone comes to me with a relationship issue and goes over what they are doing and it isn’t working then they need to be doing something different.
It’s like “Hows that working out for you?”
If it isn’t? The definition of insanity is doing the same thing again & again expecting a different result.
Much of the advice here is about adjusting expectations, as some people have expectations that set them up for failure.
Others understand the expectation adjustment part (as they become red pill so to speak), but get bitter because adjusting their expectations means the paradigm through which they view the world or relationships no longer works and they have a tough time behaving differently. It takes a minute to change your mental paradigm. Your subconscious is kinda lazy that way and resists change.
So you get attitudes that arise out of lack/failure/disappointment/bitterness etc. Call it whatever you wish, it’s the same thing.
The danger, especially for the men here who have less life experience in particular is in absorbing attitudes that arise out of bitterness and lack without realizing the negative origin and therefore the negative repercussions that can then manifest in their own experience, creating a self fulfilling negative cycle.
I’ll address my rebuttal to the attitudes I noted in my OP in a post in a little bit.
And yes that is me in the avatar. It is an unretouched proof and was taken about 2 months ago. Each of my avatars has been a photo of myself. I am as stated and yes that’s my real hair, my real boobs and real everything else.
Physically I am an outlier as I have noted repeatedly. But my healthy lifestyle and habits have as much to do with it as my good genetics. Probably more so at my age in fact.
There will always be jaded people in life and tomato throwers as well. This thread demonstrates that rather nicely in fact. The successful will always have haters. Embrace the haters. If people care enough about you to hate on you then your existence points out something deficient within them that they’d rather not acknowledge or face.
Nobody cuts me any slack around here. And they shouldn’t. And I don’t expect they should. My content stands on its own over time and I use actual photos of myself because it’s a small confirmation that I am as I state. I’m not frumpy, grumpy or unhappy at all. I’m responsible for my life and my results. Failures along the way and all.
Cheers
