Hey guys, I'm in a pickle with one of my lifelong friends right now.
I'm going to do a lot of paraphrasing, but bear with me.
This all started last year after junior prom. My friend (Sean, pretty big afc, goes to a different school than me and our friends) had been talking with this girl for the past 2 months. Long story short, after prom, he kissed her (his first), but a few days later, he got friend zoned.
Now, the thing is, me, sean, and this girl (amy), are all in this small clique of 6 people. Some how, they manage to stay friends after some awkwardness.
However, I started noticing Sean changing. Long story short, he pretty much turned into a big douchebag. His disposition changed towards all of us. This continued through the summer. The issue at heart didn't get brought up until the first date dance of this year came up. He wanted to go with amy, as "friends", but obviously got rejected, which REALLY upset him. At this point, he's become much more hostile to every one of his friends, me included. It's worth mentioning that amy and i became good friends over the summer, but arn't really interested in each other. However, he thinks differently, and has been constantly berating me over her. As of around a few weeks ago, our friend group has pretty much started getting sick of him, leaving me in an awkward state, as I've known him longer for a lot longer then just high school, more so than the others.
As of last week, i was finally about getting to the point of just pretty much telling him to go f*** himself after i caught him looking through my phone at my conversations with amy. That was, until yesterday when he told me that he was going to see a doctor about depression, as his parents have noticed him not being himself the last 6 months. I told him I would talk to him about everything after he saw said doctor.
So. I'm kinda torn right now. As much as I want to tell him it's his own fault for destroying his own friendships with everyone and to finally get over amy, I'm worried about what the consequences on him would be.
A big problem of his is that he pretty much refuses to make more friends/find a different girl at his own school, and he feels left out when the rest of us go to our own school events.
The only reason i care about sean is because I've known him my whole life, and I know he can be a different person.
As bad as it sounds, I'm considering making a move on Amy. As much as this would piss off sean in the short run, I'm thinking that by showing that he will never be romantically involved with amy would finally give him the push to move on.
Some advice here would be greatly appreciated. Because I honestly don't have any idea what to do.
I'm going to do a lot of paraphrasing, but bear with me.
This all started last year after junior prom. My friend (Sean, pretty big afc, goes to a different school than me and our friends) had been talking with this girl for the past 2 months. Long story short, after prom, he kissed her (his first), but a few days later, he got friend zoned.
Now, the thing is, me, sean, and this girl (amy), are all in this small clique of 6 people. Some how, they manage to stay friends after some awkwardness.
However, I started noticing Sean changing. Long story short, he pretty much turned into a big douchebag. His disposition changed towards all of us. This continued through the summer. The issue at heart didn't get brought up until the first date dance of this year came up. He wanted to go with amy, as "friends", but obviously got rejected, which REALLY upset him. At this point, he's become much more hostile to every one of his friends, me included. It's worth mentioning that amy and i became good friends over the summer, but arn't really interested in each other. However, he thinks differently, and has been constantly berating me over her. As of around a few weeks ago, our friend group has pretty much started getting sick of him, leaving me in an awkward state, as I've known him longer for a lot longer then just high school, more so than the others.
As of last week, i was finally about getting to the point of just pretty much telling him to go f*** himself after i caught him looking through my phone at my conversations with amy. That was, until yesterday when he told me that he was going to see a doctor about depression, as his parents have noticed him not being himself the last 6 months. I told him I would talk to him about everything after he saw said doctor.
So. I'm kinda torn right now. As much as I want to tell him it's his own fault for destroying his own friendships with everyone and to finally get over amy, I'm worried about what the consequences on him would be.
A big problem of his is that he pretty much refuses to make more friends/find a different girl at his own school, and he feels left out when the rest of us go to our own school events.
The only reason i care about sean is because I've known him my whole life, and I know he can be a different person.
As bad as it sounds, I'm considering making a move on Amy. As much as this would piss off sean in the short run, I'm thinking that by showing that he will never be romantically involved with amy would finally give him the push to move on.
Some advice here would be greatly appreciated. Because I honestly don't have any idea what to do.
