"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Better convo from HBs than from UGs?

david90

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I get good convo from HBs more often than UGs. I thought it was suppose to be the other way around.

Is it because HBs are more confident thus more relaxed and make better convo?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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R3N3G4D3

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They get talked to more, so they're more used to talking. If you don't talk much you'll have trouble keeping up a good conversation.
 

squirrels

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There's this American stigma that "if you're ugly, don't worry, you can make up for it with personality." THe problem with that is that the ugly chicks automatically ASSUME they have a sparkling personality just because they're ugly, where in real life they're both ugly AND dull.

The ones who'll probably make the best conversation are the ones who are cute, but not true hotties. They get the social attention necessary to forge good conversational skills, but they don't get focused on purely for their looks.

And as always, the exception outweighs the rule. Take each girl as an individual and see what she has to offer. :)
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by squirrels
There's this American stigma that "if you're ugly, don't worry, you can make up for it with personality." THe problem with that is that the ugly chicks automatically ASSUME they have a sparkling personality just because they're ugly, where in real life they're both ugly AND dull.
Now that was just plain salty... :p
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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could it not be down to you? it takes two people to keep a conversation going properly and you probably do not bother trying to keep the conversation going with UG's like you do with HB's
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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