"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Better convo from HBs than from UGs?

david90

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I get good convo from HBs more often than UGs. I thought it was suppose to be the other way around.

Is it because HBs are more confident thus more relaxed and make better convo?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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R3N3G4D3

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They get talked to more, so they're more used to talking. If you don't talk much you'll have trouble keeping up a good conversation.
 

squirrels

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There's this American stigma that "if you're ugly, don't worry, you can make up for it with personality." THe problem with that is that the ugly chicks automatically ASSUME they have a sparkling personality just because they're ugly, where in real life they're both ugly AND dull.

The ones who'll probably make the best conversation are the ones who are cute, but not true hotties. They get the social attention necessary to forge good conversational skills, but they don't get focused on purely for their looks.

And as always, the exception outweighs the rule. Take each girl as an individual and see what she has to offer. :)
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by squirrels
There's this American stigma that "if you're ugly, don't worry, you can make up for it with personality." THe problem with that is that the ugly chicks automatically ASSUME they have a sparkling personality just because they're ugly, where in real life they're both ugly AND dull.
Now that was just plain salty... :p
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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could it not be down to you? it takes two people to keep a conversation going properly and you probably do not bother trying to keep the conversation going with UG's like you do with HB's
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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