Just as title says, I need help with pick up. The whole acting aloof and playing the game at the beginning is my weakness, but once I get past that (sometimes by luck) I'm good at sweet talking and keeping a woman around to the point they always fall head over heels for me.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Better at making women fall in love than picking them up
- Thread starter SeeThruIt
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
PlayHer Man
Banned
Spin plates.
In the beginning of the game, no woman deserves your undivided attention.
In the beginning of the game, no woman deserves your undivided attention.
That's the problem I'm not good at picking them up to be able to spin plates. I'm better at after the fact. Usually if introduced from a friend or something.PlayHer Man said:Spin plates.
In the beginning of the game, no woman deserves your undivided attention.
PlayHer Man
Banned
I guess you need to start from scratch then and learn how to approach. I would suggest casually chatting with every attractive woman you see. Just say stupid sh!t like:SeeThruIt said:
"Cold out today right?"
"That's a nice coat you have on"
"Where is a good burger place around here?"
Just casual stuff. Do this every day. Then start closing.
Spinning plates to me isn't just dating or f*cking multiple women. It also means keeping your options open instead of just putting all your energy into one woman and ignoring others.
Even if you have a few plates you should be gaming new women. Never stop.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Great advice. Been doing that since this post, not just with women but men too. Getting used to starting casual convos with strangest.PlayHer Man said:I guess you need to start from scratch then and learn how to approach. I would suggest casually chatting with every attractive woman you see. Just say stupid sh!t like:
"Cold out today right?"
"That's a nice coat you have on"
"Where is a good burger place around here?"
Just casual stuff. Do this every day. Then start closing.
Spinning plates to me isn't just dating or f*cking multiple women. It also means keeping your options open instead of just putting all your energy into one woman and ignoring others.
Even if you have a few plates you should be gaming new women. Never stop.
But how exactly do I go from casual small talk to more? Just ask for their number?
PlayHer Man
Banned
Only close women who WANT to talk to you. If you get a lot of resistance just walk away. Attracted women will help you out.SeeThruIt said:
Use this sample conversation as a template:
YOU: That's a nice coat you have on.
HER: Thanks!
YOU: Where did you get it? I might buy one for my sister/friend/cousin.
HER: Blah blah blah
YOU: So where are you from?
HER: Blah, blah, blah
YOU: I heard most women from that place are really into porn. Is that true? (Get really close to her face and whisper this like its a secret. Touch her arm or back while you do it :yes: )
HER: No! Who said that? (or maybe she will say how did you know??!!)
YOU: Nevermind. Lets grab a drink together sometime soon. What's your phone number?