Just as title says, I need help with pick up. The whole acting aloof and playing the game at the beginning is my weakness, but once I get past that (sometimes by luck) I'm good at sweet talking and keeping a woman around to the point they always fall head over heels for me.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Better at making women fall in love than picking them up
- Thread starter SeeThruIt
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
PlayHer Man
Banned
Spin plates.
In the beginning of the game, no woman deserves your undivided attention.
In the beginning of the game, no woman deserves your undivided attention.
That's the problem I'm not good at picking them up to be able to spin plates. I'm better at after the fact. Usually if introduced from a friend or something.PlayHer Man said:Spin plates.
In the beginning of the game, no woman deserves your undivided attention.
PlayHer Man
Banned
I guess you need to start from scratch then and learn how to approach. I would suggest casually chatting with every attractive woman you see. Just say stupid sh!t like:SeeThruIt said:
"Cold out today right?"
"That's a nice coat you have on"
"Where is a good burger place around here?"
Just casual stuff. Do this every day. Then start closing.
Spinning plates to me isn't just dating or f*cking multiple women. It also means keeping your options open instead of just putting all your energy into one woman and ignoring others.
Even if you have a few plates you should be gaming new women. Never stop.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Great advice. Been doing that since this post, not just with women but men too. Getting used to starting casual convos with strangest.PlayHer Man said:I guess you need to start from scratch then and learn how to approach. I would suggest casually chatting with every attractive woman you see. Just say stupid sh!t like:
"Cold out today right?"
"That's a nice coat you have on"
"Where is a good burger place around here?"
Just casual stuff. Do this every day. Then start closing.
Spinning plates to me isn't just dating or f*cking multiple women. It also means keeping your options open instead of just putting all your energy into one woman and ignoring others.
Even if you have a few plates you should be gaming new women. Never stop.
But how exactly do I go from casual small talk to more? Just ask for their number?
PlayHer Man
Banned
Only close women who WANT to talk to you. If you get a lot of resistance just walk away. Attracted women will help you out.SeeThruIt said:
Use this sample conversation as a template:
YOU: That's a nice coat you have on.
HER: Thanks!
YOU: Where did you get it? I might buy one for my sister/friend/cousin.
HER: Blah blah blah
YOU: So where are you from?
HER: Blah, blah, blah
YOU: I heard most women from that place are really into porn. Is that true? (Get really close to her face and whisper this like its a secret. Touch her arm or back while you do it :yes: )
HER: No! Who said that? (or maybe she will say how did you know??!!)
YOU: Nevermind. Lets grab a drink together sometime soon. What's your phone number?