Beta PROVIDER ; I pose a question

[cola]

So it's probably fact a good woman is hard to find.
So my question is:

Say you're good at this "game".
You can pull, you're attractive, you constantly seek to improve, etc. You are an alpha by definition.

But eventually weather you know it or not, this **** gets old.
New lays lose that excitement. Women get predictable, you can tell there next moves or exactly what phase of attraction they are in..
Sex loses all meaning, it almost feels empty. Like your just satisfying another need, like taking a doodoo, or eating a
sandwich when you're hungry.

So you finally find a good one..
She respects gender roles, she contributes to the house,
She respects the value of a dollar, she doesn't *****, doesn't nag.. And she truly sees you as her superhero. And you never have to ask for sex. It's yours, just take it. Unless she's on the rag or her stomach hurts.

But.....
Dont matter how he/she got here.. He's here! She's a single mom.
She has a kid or two . So since this woman is 1 in a million and I see that, and I want her long term, because she's the Bentley of women as far as virtues.. And I'm successful, financially stable, and I am in the position to and I love her.. Not the needy clingy self serving nice guy love..
But genuine love her..

If I decided to co parent these kids with her, and provide for them..
Am I still a beta provider?

Oh yeah and she's smoking hot...

 

[foreverAFC]

If I decided to co parent these kids with her, and provide for them..
Am I still a beta provider?

yes

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

There was a post in the DJ Bible about being careful with women with kids. Basically just said you could end up paying child support even you aren't married.

Being with a woman you care about isn't being a beta. From what you said you've already lived the live of gaming women, and found it shallow over time. You wanted something else, and found it.

Don't worry about what everyone else thinks. If you care for this woman, and feel she's right for you, be with her. Just play it safe, and make for sure you aren't being used.

 

[cola]

No, no I'm not in this situation. Just purely a topic for discussion.
At the first guy, because I don't care enough to quote..

If you don't see, this game is a hunt. Once you've found a suitable kill there is no need to keep hunting.

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

She's a single mom.

READ and LEARN
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=2204614#post2204614

You are getting played.It's up to you if want to accept the fact she is so good not because she likes you but because she needs you.Just don't cry later you will be disposed as trash when you will stop being useful for her purpose.

If something is too good - it is not.It's a trap.There is a reason all single moms appear so ****ing amazing.
If you are happy to exchange your life,time,money for good acting and ***** that's fine but you need to remind yourself about it every day.

 

[cola]

Dude, you guys are brainwashed. Every single mom isn't a helpless thot. Some single mom's work, make okay money and don't need a man. It's like you guys aren't able to think independently you just regurgitate the same dumb ass ****..


Single mom's all want to use you
Go no contact
Spin plates..same generic advice

Feminism is an extreme school of thought
And so suave is becoming the opposite extreme
Truths probably somewhere in the middle

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Well she probably got divorced for a reason. But if you do manage to find a strong woman like that, you aren't a 'beta' provider. You are more of an 'alpha' provider I guess. The thing is, less thinking and more doing. If you found a woman like this and your first thoughts were simply that she would make a good wife, then you marry her. One thing that people here are now forgetting is that when you start to reach the paramount that you have described here, seeing the game as shallow and finding all the women the same and such, then you can bend the game to your own will and make your own rules, because at that point, you are growing a new mindset, and mindset is almost everything.

You make your own rules at that point and be who you want to be. When you reach that point and that level, then you make your own rules. It is hard to explain.

Read some of the really old posts (The Pook era and around there). They elaborate on it. You will read a lot of them saying how nothing is set in stone which is why rules aren't really rules per se, but more of to be treated like guidelines.

 

[backbreaker]

i've worked way too hard in life to have a woman pretend to love me to get me to provide for her, divorce me 2 years later and take me to the cleaners and i have to pay child support / alimony for a kid i didn't father when i already have a son myself.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

I married a single mom, I kinda had her in her later prime years 23-30.
She was f*king hot and horny pretty much all the time. I think she declined sex like 5 times in 7years, was it worth it? I don't know I don't think about it all the much anymore, it's in the past.

I was about your age when I met her, I didn't marry her until about 4 years in? She never pressured me to marry her and I probably didn't need to but it happened. Luckily I never got her pregnant, the relationship ended after 2 years of marriage. I got lucky again and she didn't take me to the cleaners. We filed no contest so it was a pretty straight forward divorce. No alimony where I live and I didn't adopt the kid so didn't have to pay child support.

1 kid yeah ok but 2 kids F*CK NO you are insane. Way to much baggage man.

I quit dating single moms a couple years back, the smartest decision I have ever made

All in all the toughest part for me was saying good bye to the kid that called me "Dad" I raised the kid for pretty much 6-7yrs. It's sad but that's just the way it is.

 

[Trump]

Dude, you guys are brainwashed. Every single mom isn't a helpless thot. Some single mom's work, make okay money and don't need a man. It's like you guys aren't able to think independently you just regurgitate the same dumb ass ****..

Single mom's all want to use you
Go no contact
Spin plates..same generic advice

Bro no matter how hot they are, single moms are frowned on here like nobody's business.

But the good news is, they still beat girls who are fat. Fat girls are the worse thing on sosuave. You could be a single mother who is a murderer and hot, and we would go out with you.

Fat is where we draw the line.

 

[sylvester the cat]

She's a single mom.
this woman is 1 in a million .

this is a contradiction in terms.

If she were not a single mom she might then be '1 in a million'. but either way this is a rather beta thing to say in the first place.