This is a thread I'm making for my friend (no, seriously) because I'm trying to help him out but it'd be cool to get some input.
Basically... He met this girl who is a "friend of a friend". She lives in Amsterdam (the awesome land of weed and hot prostitutes). He self-reportedly "reaaaaaally likes her
", but nothing is happening between them. He hasn't shown her that he's interested despite hanging out together... I asked him what he's doing to try and become more than her friend, and he was like "uhm... uhm... I dunno... uhm..." so basically he's doing absolutely nothing to try and connect with her on a sexual/romantic level as opposed to a friendly one. He says he's scared because he doesn't want to lose her as a friend and doesn't want her to be like "ewwww!" (his self-esteem is below zero)...
Last time he went to see her they "hung out at this little pizza place". He smiled and looked like he was about to cry as he said that by the way.
Apparently his friend told her that he likes her but she said she's not into him, but there's no proof of that being true. I tried to give him some advice. I told him that if he does nothing he's choosing to be just her friend and may as well forget her, but I don't think it has been helpful to him because he's just simply petrified. He's quite a beta guy, I think it might even be in his genetics, he's very short in stature, friendly-faced (even when angry he looks kinda pathetic if I'm honest) and unimposing. Also extremely low self-esteem and talking himself down constantly. I've told him many times to stop doing it and to pick himself up but he just doesn't.
In other words to put a long story short, he's the VERY typical beta in a VERY typical "love" situation which is likely going to turn into a VERY routine rejection as is always the case in these situations, unless he does something about it. Only thing he hasn't done wrong is that he hasn't bought her flowers, thank God, but he very likely bought her pizza. Can anybody offer some advice for this poor guy?
Basically... He met this girl who is a "friend of a friend". She lives in Amsterdam (the awesome land of weed and hot prostitutes). He self-reportedly "reaaaaaally likes her
", but nothing is happening between them. He hasn't shown her that he's interested despite hanging out together... I asked him what he's doing to try and become more than her friend, and he was like "uhm... uhm... I dunno... uhm..." so basically he's doing absolutely nothing to try and connect with her on a sexual/romantic level as opposed to a friendly one. He says he's scared because he doesn't want to lose her as a friend and doesn't want her to be like "ewwww!" (his self-esteem is below zero)...Last time he went to see her they "hung out at this little pizza place". He smiled and looked like he was about to cry as he said that by the way.
Apparently his friend told her that he likes her but she said she's not into him, but there's no proof of that being true. I tried to give him some advice. I told him that if he does nothing he's choosing to be just her friend and may as well forget her, but I don't think it has been helpful to him because he's just simply petrified. He's quite a beta guy, I think it might even be in his genetics, he's very short in stature, friendly-faced (even when angry he looks kinda pathetic if I'm honest) and unimposing. Also extremely low self-esteem and talking himself down constantly. I've told him many times to stop doing it and to pick himself up but he just doesn't.
In other words to put a long story short, he's the VERY typical beta in a VERY typical "love" situation which is likely going to turn into a VERY routine rejection as is always the case in these situations, unless he does something about it. Only thing he hasn't done wrong is that he hasn't bought her flowers, thank God, but he very likely bought her pizza. Can anybody offer some advice for this poor guy?