I sense that you put women on a bit of a pedestal, and yourself below.
The most 'hardened' have no problem chasing their dreams at the expense of passing on their genetics. I put hardened in quotes because I wouldn't call them that. I would simply call them the most free and most ambitious men. They know perfectly well what they're sacrificing, but the draw of their dreams is too strong to deter them. They're flexible, fluid, adaptable, but undeterred. A relationship and offspiring can obviously work, but it's completely optional and they don't worry about it.
There is no longer a need to reproduce, humans are everywhere. It's ancient programming that compels you to have children. In the world today it's not necessary.
This is, in my opinion, the apex of masculinity. To stare eternity in the face and still work passionately to make a mark on the world above all else. Never cowing, never slowing the momentum of a rich life. If a woman wants a family he has the condition to himself that it can't detract him. He works even the family into his dreams and passions, making sure even a wife and child only fuel him more. Like we talk about, one foot out the door just in case she lets herself become a burden.
Sometimes the dream is so great that he decides these are not an option. Whatever the choice, his conviction is unwavering. His only job in this regard is to filter for women that are a joy and obvious benefit in his endeavors.
Like we talk about endlessly, the action can be the same between two men, but it's the reasons behind those actions that make them masculine/abundant or feminine/beta.
The beta will want a family for security and safety, retrograding into the childish mental state he had with his mother. He may find joy in his family, but it's at the expense of larger goals. He will likely never feel truly fulfilled, at least not anywhere near the amount he would by putting it all on the line.
I personally can't think of a reason for the masculine man to want a family these days. Maybe only seeking a wealthier family to help allocate more capital toward his dreams, or a family of high social caliber for the connections, but even these things don't require courtship and can be obtained by other means.
Otherwise a business or empire can be passed to anyone, and genetics play a very small role in individual behavior. As a result if a family manifests it's done effortlessly by the man, since it would be the wife's life project/passion to mirror the man's.
There is no shortage of women for both men. Naturally a more ideal man is less abundant, the same for an ideal woman. But still, no shortage.
You have the freedom to tell whatever story you like, let it be a noble one, whatever that means to you. Let only the women in that want to fuel you, that inspire you.