you r wasting your time... there is no such thing as "stealing" a girl. For f***k's sake, she s not somebody's property! if she s willing, she ll do it, but obviously she s not, or you wouldn't be posting this. question answered
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
There's no specific way to do this, the main thing is to never ever get attached, before you're going out, while you're going out, and most definitely after you've broken up. Never let the woman get the sense that you absolutely need her, because in reality you don't. Just be true to yourself, see a situation for what it really is, not what your emotions tell you it is. Confidence is pretty much synonymous with being relaxed, if you let your emotions control your thoughts you'll have a harder and harder time being relaxed, which will eventually start coming off as insecurity and the woman will see you in a different light than she's used to.xdreamz said:well i've had a girlfriend being swept away by an ex. this is something that i find very important in advancing my game. how can i avoid something like that happening to me in the future?
the way i like to think of it is: you're giving her what she wants. there are a lot of people just stuck in relationships with problems. girls that are with cheating boyfriends. girls that are with abusive jerks. i'm all for better relationships and by being the one who provides it then it can help me advance and share my experience for others to learn from.
So then what would be the best route to get a girl with a BF?? I mean i know some girls who might "mention" their BF, but they dont talk about him. Also i would assume she wouldnt be talking/spending time with someone if she really cared about her BF. Would the best bet be to ask for her number if you feel some attraction between you and her?Snow Plowman said:lol, I'm hearing alot of moans and groans about the morals of chicks cheating and actually having sex with a chick that has a BF.
I'm not sure if some of you guys notice but most HOT chicks have some guy that there fuking. How do you expect to have sex with HOT chicks if you are always worried about whether or not they have a BF.
Man the fuk up and because you deserve the BEST. Don't settle for scraps. I can understand if you really would never talk to a girl who is seeing someone because thats just apart of who you are.
I'm not saying to go around trying to mess up relationships by deliberately approaching chick who clearly has a BF, but I'm also not saying to settle for scrapes.
BFs don't mean sh!t, its just a social title. For me personally there was a month where I ended up fuking nothing but chicks who had BFs. Most never told me and I ended up finding out, others indirectly mentioned it but didn't care. One particular time I remember gaming a chick and everyone telling me she's with her BF, I ask if she with her BF and she says "NO". I purposely blew myself out because I really wanted to see if her BF was actually here so I asked her like 4 more times before she actually said yes. One minute later BF sits by her not knowing she was all into me a min before he came.
Those who are saying a woman can't cheat doesn't understand social dynamics and really need to look into it.
Given the right situation MOST women will cheat. There are some chicks who WON'T do it. (When I say cheat, I'm talking about SEX) But it is possible to get a makeout atleast. It's actually easier to get girls who have BFs because she is only comparing you to her BF.
I'm leaving it at this, because I don't want to get off topic...bottomline if your not cooler than her BF then she would never cheat on him with you. Also BT is another thing you can use to your advantage. (This is why it's possible to kiss girls and get her # right in front of her BF)
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Monkey said:You can't steal her unless she wants to be stolen.
damn right.. you can tempt but a happy girl in a happy relationship will never stray.Monkey said:You can't steal her unless she wants to be stolen.
Well according to the social exchange theory in psychology, if a girl's comparison level (her perceptions of the costs and benefits of being in a relationship, so a high reward to cost ratio is good) is lower than her comparison level of alternatives (her perceptions of the cost/benefit ratio of being with SOMEONE ELSE), then theoretically, she'll leave her boyfriend for you. So either her comparison level within the relationship has to be already low (i.e. she's unhappy with her current relationship), or you have to be that much "higher value" than her original bf in order to "steal a girl from another dude". So I guess the question is, is she happy with her relationship or not?DonJuan11 said:Ain't that the truth roof.
Girls don't like anything that they are not comfortable with. You coming into the picture is messing with her lifestyle, her harmony.
I would still go for it if you're looking some action, but don't expect her to leave him completely and start a new relationship with you.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
best adviceDilberto said:Be, "the better man" and she'll gravitate towards you. Otherwise, find yourself another fish. Don't be so closed-minded, and lazy.
As people have stated, there aren't any. Most women have a nominal boyfriend, hotties most definitiely, even if it's just to drive them about and buy them stuff, and won't leave them unless they have another branch to swing to. Just be a better branch, make it clear that you might be available (if that makes sense) and if she wants out of an unsatisfactory relationship she will leave him for you. There doesn't have to be any cheating involved.Maximus Rex said:What's wrong with focusing your time on chicks that don't have boyfriend's?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.