"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Best way to next her?

samosa

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I'm bored of a plate, and want to stop hanging out with her 1 on 1, banging her etc - I've just had enough, and want to spend the time with other plates, on hobbies and looking for new plates etc. However, we have quite a few mutual friends, and I'd like to do it without any drama. I think she will be surprised and probably a bit upset, but can't quite think of the best way to phrase it do she is as cool with it as possible, for my benefit with regards to the people we know.

Simply going ghost is easy of course, but will make it awkward to hang out with people she is friends with, and is a cowardly way out. Normally I am direct with people, but saying "I am just bored of banging you" does not feel like the best way forward here. If I say "Let's just be friends," she will be like, isn't that what we are anyway? Or "I don't see it going any further," well neither does she as far as I am aware, and won't address the issue of me basically not wanting to hang out just the two of us and bang any more.

So how do you tell a plate you won't be banging her any more without her thinking you are a d!ck? Open to suggestions..
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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turn into a beta p^ssy, LET her break up with you :) It's alswys better when they think it's THEIR Idea....
 

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sodbuster said:
turn into a beta p^ssy, LET her break up with you :) It's alswys better when they think it's THEIR Idea....
Lol this advice is so funny.
 

samosa

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Lol, yeah I did consider that, but it is too risky - could backfire :)

It's a tough one
 
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