"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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samosa

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I'm bored of a plate, and want to stop hanging out with her 1 on 1, banging her etc - I've just had enough, and want to spend the time with other plates, on hobbies and looking for new plates etc. However, we have quite a few mutual friends, and I'd like to do it without any drama. I think she will be surprised and probably a bit upset, but can't quite think of the best way to phrase it do she is as cool with it as possible, for my benefit with regards to the people we know.

Simply going ghost is easy of course, but will make it awkward to hang out with people she is friends with, and is a cowardly way out. Normally I am direct with people, but saying "I am just bored of banging you" does not feel like the best way forward here. If I say "Let's just be friends," she will be like, isn't that what we are anyway? Or "I don't see it going any further," well neither does she as far as I am aware, and won't address the issue of me basically not wanting to hang out just the two of us and bang any more.

So how do you tell a plate you won't be banging her any more without her thinking you are a d!ck? Open to suggestions..
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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sodbuster

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turn into a beta p^ssy, LET her break up with you :) It's alswys better when they think it's THEIR Idea....
 

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sodbuster said:
turn into a beta p^ssy, LET her break up with you :) It's alswys better when they think it's THEIR Idea....
Lol this advice is so funny.
 

samosa

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Lol, yeah I did consider that, but it is too risky - could backfire :)

It's a tough one
 
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