"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Best way to initiate meeting someone/conversation?

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There's this girl who broke up with her boyfriend a couple weeks ago and I'm pretty sure she's open to a new boyfriend if the right guy comes along. I went to HS with her, we weren't really "friends" (meaning we never hung out after school or anything like that), but we were cool with each other. I think we're compatible as well. Anyways, I'm looking for some tips on the best way to meet her/initiate a conversation with her. If possible I want to make it look like an accident/fate brought us together... something like that. Like I could "accidentally" run into her somewhere. We both go to the same community college.. not much goes on there. I don't know her class schedule or anything.. not sure where I would find that out. And she also works at a clothing dept. store in town. The place where she works seems like a good place to initiate a conversation but its mostly a girls clothing store and I really would have no legit reason to be in there (unless someone can think of something).

Any suggestions on the best way to go about this? She's on my friends list on myspace but I think a face-to-face convo would have more of an impact.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Don't try to make it look like you "happened" to bump into her.

If you see her, approach her and start the conversation directly. Talk about high school.

Your opening line should be an upbeat "Hi!".
 
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Vice said:
Don't try to make it look like you "happened" to bump into her.

If you see her, approach her and start the conversation directly.
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I didn't mean it like that. Maybe I worded it wrong. I meant something like I could find out when she's working, go into the store to buy something and just "happen" to see her. If I see her then I'll approach her. I just don't want to initiate anything so it makes me look like I went out of my way to see her or anything like that.

And I can handle a convo well if I'm not nervous or anything. Just the initial approaching/meeting I'm having trouble with.
 
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PhX said:
I didn't mean it like that. Maybe I worded it wrong. I meant something like I could find out when she's working, go into the store to buy something and just "happen" to see her. If I see her then I'll approach her. I just don't want to initiate anything so it makes me look like I went out of my way to see her or anything like that.

And I can handle a convo well if I'm not nervous or anything. Just the initial approaching/meeting I'm having trouble with.
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That's just being creepy. And what you described is "happening" to bump into her.

When you see her at school, within three seconds of seeing her, SAY SOMETHING!
 
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That's just being creepy. And what you described is "happening" to bump into her.

When you see her at school, within three seconds of seeing her, SAY SOMETHING!
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I never see her at school... we both go to community college. Probably have classes in completely different time-slots.
That's my prob... how am I supposed to approach her if I never see her?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I never see her at school... we both go to community college. Probably have classes in completely different time-slots.
That's my prob... how am I supposed to approach her if I never see her?
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Talk to other girls. Keep an eye out for her, and when you finally spot her, go for it.

You can also send her a message via Myspace... I can help you with that if you need me to, my Myspace game is excellent. Stark contrast to my real life game :(
 
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The place where she works seems like a good place to initiate a conversation but its mostly a girls clothing store and I really would have no legit reason to be in there (unless someone can think of something).

Any suggestions on the best way to go about this? She's on my friends list on myspace but I think a face-to-face convo would have more of an impact.
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Why don't you come up with an idea of something you wanted to buy as say a birthday gift for say a female relative. Go to the Mall and walk by and quickly see if she's there. If and when you see her working then go into the store and you'll have the gift pretext in your pocket. I'm not sure why you can't just open her on Myspace though.
 
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I actually got with my last GF like that...went to HS, not close friends or anything but we had fun in class together. Bumped into her at a gas station, she facebooked me the next day, I got her number, and we ended up living together for over a year.

If only it was always that easy...
 
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ketostix said:
Why don't you come up with an idea of something you wanted to buy as say a birthday gift for say a female relative. Go to the Mall and walk by and quickly see if she's there. If and when you see her working then go into the store and you'll have the gift pretext in your pocket. I'm not sure why you can't just open her on Myspace though.
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It's not a mall.. just a building. Any tips on how I should open on myspace (if you guys agree that its the best way to go about this)?
 
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