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Best way to initiate meeting someone/conversation?

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There's this girl who broke up with her boyfriend a couple weeks ago and I'm pretty sure she's open to a new boyfriend if the right guy comes along. I went to HS with her, we weren't really "friends" (meaning we never hung out after school or anything like that), but we were cool with each other. I think we're compatible as well. Anyways, I'm looking for some tips on the best way to meet her/initiate a conversation with her. If possible I want to make it look like an accident/fate brought us together... something like that. Like I could "accidentally" run into her somewhere. We both go to the same community college.. not much goes on there. I don't know her class schedule or anything.. not sure where I would find that out. And she also works at a clothing dept. store in town. The place where she works seems like a good place to initiate a conversation but its mostly a girls clothing store and I really would have no legit reason to be in there (unless someone can think of something).

Any suggestions on the best way to go about this? She's on my friends list on myspace but I think a face-to-face convo would have more of an impact.
 

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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

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Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Don't try to make it look like you "happened" to bump into her.

If you see her, approach her and start the conversation directly. Talk about high school.

Your opening line should be an upbeat "Hi!".
 
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Vice said:
Don't try to make it look like you "happened" to bump into her.

If you see her, approach her and start the conversation directly.
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I didn't mean it like that. Maybe I worded it wrong. I meant something like I could find out when she's working, go into the store to buy something and just "happen" to see her. If I see her then I'll approach her. I just don't want to initiate anything so it makes me look like I went out of my way to see her or anything like that.

And I can handle a convo well if I'm not nervous or anything. Just the initial approaching/meeting I'm having trouble with.
 
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I didn't mean it like that. Maybe I worded it wrong. I meant something like I could find out when she's working, go into the store to buy something and just "happen" to see her. If I see her then I'll approach her. I just don't want to initiate anything so it makes me look like I went out of my way to see her or anything like that.

And I can handle a convo well if I'm not nervous or anything. Just the initial approaching/meeting I'm having trouble with.
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That's just being creepy. And what you described is "happening" to bump into her.

When you see her at school, within three seconds of seeing her, SAY SOMETHING!
 
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That's just being creepy. And what you described is "happening" to bump into her.

When you see her at school, within three seconds of seeing her, SAY SOMETHING!
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I never see her at school... we both go to community college. Probably have classes in completely different time-slots.
That's my prob... how am I supposed to approach her if I never see her?
 

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I never see her at school... we both go to community college. Probably have classes in completely different time-slots.
That's my prob... how am I supposed to approach her if I never see her?
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Talk to other girls. Keep an eye out for her, and when you finally spot her, go for it.

You can also send her a message via Myspace... I can help you with that if you need me to, my Myspace game is excellent. Stark contrast to my real life game :(
 
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The place where she works seems like a good place to initiate a conversation but its mostly a girls clothing store and I really would have no legit reason to be in there (unless someone can think of something).

Any suggestions on the best way to go about this? She's on my friends list on myspace but I think a face-to-face convo would have more of an impact.
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Why don't you come up with an idea of something you wanted to buy as say a birthday gift for say a female relative. Go to the Mall and walk by and quickly see if she's there. If and when you see her working then go into the store and you'll have the gift pretext in your pocket. I'm not sure why you can't just open her on Myspace though.
 
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I actually got with my last GF like that...went to HS, not close friends or anything but we had fun in class together. Bumped into her at a gas station, she facebooked me the next day, I got her number, and we ended up living together for over a year.

If only it was always that easy...
 
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Why don't you come up with an idea of something you wanted to buy as say a birthday gift for say a female relative. Go to the Mall and walk by and quickly see if she's there. If and when you see her working then go into the store and you'll have the gift pretext in your pocket. I'm not sure why you can't just open her on Myspace though.
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It's not a mall.. just a building. Any tips on how I should open on myspace (if you guys agree that its the best way to go about this)?
 
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