"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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san1

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Hey guys (or girls) first and foremost i appreciate your constructive comments it helped me through frail times of my life.

Like all the other posts, this post too has a girl. To start off i met this girl quite a while back while i displayed AFC behaviours. We'd talk on the phone long hours and any time i asked her to meet me, she'd flake, always with some excuses.
So, i realised this girl was very unpredictable. Manipulative is a better word. Back when we used to talk on the phone, after a few conversation, i started to use her as a guinea pig. I experimented on the things i needed to work on like '****y funny' and teased her some, to which she always thought i was 'mad' at her. She'd always ask me if i was mad at her and i'd give a sarcastic answer. She then started telling me of her boyfriend and that he was being very posessive and asked if i was 'posessive' too. I didn't think much. we stopped talking for a long time.
On MSN i see her one day and i ask, how is her boyfriend doing to which she replies "what boyfriend?" i continue with the conversation just being playful here and there. She suddenly reveals to me that she likes someone in Australia. I ask a few question about the distance and change the subject.
Again on msn another day (this is funny) she comes and starts talking. I ask how her boyfriend in australia is she tells me, she doesn't think it'll work out. She tells me relationships are useless. Then she sends me her picture (HB8), i think she was expecting me to just kiss her ass after the picture sending, but i didn't even open it till after we wre done conversing. I told her that too. She then replies with 'i'm sorry i'm thinking of Ray' (lol) She proceeds to tell me Ray is ruder then i am. I change the subject. This is when she tells me, she's in love with me and states the reason why she thinks she's in love with me. I just say "u can't fall in love with me" i was expecting for her to say "why?" but she didn't. Instead she, believe me when i say this, she rambles on about how her and Ray had a fight on the phone and he hung up on her and she is trying to re-establish a phone connection. I tell her i'm not her psychologist and what was this about her liking me? she then tells me 'like you?' after that she constantly avoids any question i ask. I say **** it and leave.
I make an exception for her and I email her to hang out this friday. to which first e-mail she replies with "sure we can go" and then emails me back 15 minutes later saying "she just realised she had a test on friday, maybe we can go after, or another day"

Now the question is do you think I should give her any more chances she flaked once before or is she to psycho?
appreciate it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Jovan

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Dude this chick is using you are her emotional tampon... Why do you keep asking her about her boyfriends... don't do that man...

Also this girl isn't interested... Interested girls don't flake... seriously forget about this chick or just use her as your emotional tampon
 

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I ask for her boyfriend because I have a feeling she has none. It's more of a mocking/sarcastic ask.
 
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