"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Best way to handle "taking a break"

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What's the best way to handle the situation when a girl says she wants to take a break?

I see it as she wants to break up and will use it as a trial period to make sure it's the right decision.

Should you give her the time?

Should you just end it and force her to deal with the loss?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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There can be many reasons why a girl would say they want to take a break. It depends on whether there is anything which leads into it, and how your relationship is with her at the time.

I tend to withdraw when something upsets me, or if I feel the situation would be better if there is a cooling off period to not having any contact, so as to cool things down a bit and to have some space to think about things more clearly. That doesn't necessarily mean a breakup.

I would suggest give her some space and time and not contacting her for a week and see if she would come back after the break. If she doesn't, it would be better to at least leave her a message after a week to show that you care, but not giving her any pressure.

If you don't contact her at all and she thinks that you don't care, the no contact would probably become permanent and become a real breakup even if it may not originally mean to be that way.
 
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Tell her..."yeah probably a good idea" grab your stuff, leave
 
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Means it's over and she wants to date other people. It's a cop out. The easy way out. Trying to avoid being direct, up front and honest with you. Dump her and find someone new.
 
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It means she doesn't want to bang you anymore and wants to ride other guys, if she isn't already.

So, it's over.

Heck, she might even come back, but that's only because the other guy she's pining for didn't work out.

Stick a fork in it, it's done. Move on.
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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HalfPUAHalfAFC said:
It means she doesn't want to bang you anymore and wants to ride other guys, if she isn't already.

So, it's over.

Heck, she might even come back, but that's only because the other guy she's pining for didn't work out.

Stick a fork in it, it's done. Move on.
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Yep....

OP - tell her you want to take a permanent break. Never speak to her again. AND WHAT EVER YOU DO - don't let her know you're upset about it (if you are). Just be blunt with her and straight to the point.
 
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adam225 said:
Yep....

OP - tell her you want to take a permanent break. Never speak to her again. AND WHAT EVER YOU DO - don't let her know you're upset about it (if you are). Just be blunt with her and straight to the point.
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Don't even say permanent. Just be polite and say, "yeah that's probably a good idea."

Don't show any emotions, other than happiness, or indifference.
 
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Tell her..."yeah probably a good idea" grab your stuff, leave
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Exactly this. Grab everything of yours that is at her place and tell her to come grab her stuff... keys, clothes, the lot.
 
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Say "ya you're right, See ya" then go no contact and move onto your plates on the side. (Assuming you do or you're gana be oneitised) She'll be baffled that you could care less and wander back to you as a FB. Other than that, the relationship is OVER for the time being and you need to eject immediately to save yourself from castration.
 
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Agree that it is, in fact, a good idea, and go ghost on her. If she never contacts you again, so be it. Don't let it be a game with her rules, that's not cool.

Whatever you do, do NOT plead, beg, or whine about why she wants a break.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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dbx said:
What's the best way to handle the situation when a girl says she wants to take a break?
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My response would be "OK, I still need to have sex while we taking a break, should I get an interim girl to sleep with?"
 
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dbx said:
What's the best way to handle the situation when a girl says she wants to take a break?

I see it as she wants to break up and will use it as a trial period to make sure it's the right decision.

Should you give her the time?

Should you just end it and force her to deal with the loss?
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You absolutely have to end it and unless you get a hotter woman and she comes back it's over.

Make it seem like it was your idea and you didn't even notice that she said to take a break.
 
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