"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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best way to handle new girls @ work.. show some interest? or indifference?

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hot new chick at work. today was my 2nd day working w/ her. all the guys have been showering her w/ attention: initiating conversation, making lame comments, obviously checking her out, etc. me on the other hand, i was acting more like i didn't care: pretty much doing the opp. of all the other guys at work: hardly chatted w/ her, didn't pay much attention, never checked her out blatantly. i figure this would be the best move in the long run... work it slowly w/ patience.

i want to know how your experiences were like w/ hot new chicks at work. did you have success by hitting on her from the start? or failure? i feel that acting indifferent would be best, but i realize that going this route could also kill chances as well. timing is important i guess... what are your thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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yeah, what he said. seeing a girl everyday, like at work... that will be tough. plus you got all the other guys attacking her like sharks everyday. that's not easy.
 
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The best thing to do would be what everyone else ISN'T doing. Or in other words, don't just blatently hit on her and everything else like your co-workers. You thought of indifference, and I think that can work, but only to a certain level. I mean, if you ever wanna get anywhere with her, you'll HAVE to talk to her, right?

So, when you're talking to her, don't just comment on her hottness or obviously check her out all day long, like the rest of your workplace. Don't let her phase you. Basically, like you would treat any girl if you're a DJ. Just bust on her for being new and making mistakes, and then help her without supplicating to her. That's a good start.

But yea, as always, work and dating usually don't mix well at all. Be cautious.
 
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