"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Best way to flake on a first date

BeTheChange

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Women just haven't been the main focus at all last few months - which has corresponded with probably the most productive and positive period of my twenties. Content with how things are going. However this has brought with it the necessity of flaking on women.

Tomorrow I arranged to meet three chicks, but then I got a last minute client meeting (money before h0es). I like the look of the girls enough to want to rearrange the dates for a better night. What's the best way to flake and keep the "player" alarm bells from ringing in their ears?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Tell them you got a last minute client meeting with a very important client and you want to reschedule. Same idea that, if a chick is going to flake on a date with a dude, she should go in with a counter offer, otherwise she really isnt interested.
 

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Money before h0es. Got that right!

I agree with @EyeBRollin

Plus once you are the high value person, flaking becomes pretty normal. I do it a lot. I was supposed to grab brunch with a plate this past Saturday. I ended up over sleeping and woke up to several texts asking me if I was still coming. Didn't respond until Sunday.

I think back to my younger days when women would flake on me like I was dirt. Now that I can turn it around, I don't feel bad at all.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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. I was supposed to grab brunch with a plate this past Saturday. I ended up over sleeping and woke up to several texts asking me if I was still coming. Didn't respond until Sunday.
it breaks my heart when guys lose sight of the goal
 

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not going out with a chick who wants to go out with you should be seen as more of a missed opportunity than a thing to be proud of (unless there's something wrong with her)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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not going out with a chick who wants to go out with you should be seen as more of a missed opportunity than a thing to be proud of (unless there's something wrong with her)
Wrong. The end goal is not to get the girl but enjoy life. Would you rue a decision to stay in, rather than watch a film at the cinema a "missed opportunity"? I think not. It's simply preference.

At the moment, women just really are a more sentient form of entertainment.
 

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Would you rue a decision to stay in, rather than watch a film at the cinema a "missed opportunity"? I think not. It's simply preference.
Yes actually, I've regretted staying in almost every time I've ever done it, granted im closer to a shut in than a party animal
 

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"Something suddenly came up"
- Greg Brady

Actually, don't give a reason, just say "Darling, I won't be able to make it tomorrow as planned but I will make it up to you".
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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