"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Been on a couple of dates with a plate I met online. Smashed a few times. No social connections but would feel bad just ghosting her as she seems to be a decent person and clearly wants a boyfriend.

Starting a masters and running a business at the same time so just don't have the capacity for more than one plate at the moment and she doesn't make the cut.

Best way to let this one down gently? Would like to have the option to hook up again if I ever have the availability months from now.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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BeTheChange said:
Been on a couple of dates with a plate I met online. Smashed a few times. No social connections but would feel bad just ghosting her as she seems to be a decent person and clearly wants a boyfriend.

Starting a masters and running a business at the same time so just don't have the capacity for more than one plate at the moment and she doesn't make the cut.

Best way to let this one down gently? Would like to have the option to hook up again if I ever have the availability months from now.
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my two instinctive ideas are

1. try telling her the truth as you wrote it here

2. hire her, then use the expected employment standards as your excuse to cool it.

If she's still attracted she'll give it up again when you're available because she'll be available(nearby)
 
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Just tell her you are going through life changing events right now, which you are and that you'd rather concentrate on that and not have any distractions. Tell them that you think it would be unfair to place them really low in the priority list as that would be disrespectful and would rather try to reconnect at a later time if both of you are still single.
 
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BeTheChange said:
Been on a couple of dates with a plate I met online. Smashed a few times. No social connections but would feel bad just ghosting her as she seems to be a decent person and clearly wants a boyfriend.

Starting a masters and running a business at the same time so just don't have the capacity for more than one plate at the moment and she doesn't make the cut.

Best way to let this one down gently? Would like to have the option to hook up again if I ever have the availability months from now.
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Tell her that you're not looking for a relationship and just keep seeing her one day a week to smash. Tell her that you're busy the rest of the time.
 
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