"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Best way to ask her out again?

marmel75

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I challenge you, at the end of every date, when you're driving them to their car, or asking where they parked/escorting them to their car: thank them for spending the evening with you, then kiss them right on the lips. Do not ask!! and do not engage in lengthy, awkward, meaningless small talk. Kiss her on the lips or embrace the rejection and walk away.

When they deny you the kiss, do not act upset or discouraged. Simply smile and say, "goodnight" then politely walk away. Then deny your time and attention. Let her initiate contact with you, and if she doesn't initiate contact with you, then you must be willing to walk away permanently.

It has often been said that a woman's biggest fear in life is a man who is willing to walk away even when he doesn't want to.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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