"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Best way to ask a girl out?

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I know the most important thing is to do it in person but i have misconceptions on exactly how to say it out.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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um well I alluded to it to her by using my customized kicks sayin that i wear it on special occasions. She asked me if that day was ,and I told it maybe one. So at the end of our date, I straight out said I wore these sneakers cuz I wanted to know if you would like to be my GF, she ate all up and said yesi n a instant. As corny as it sounds it worked.
 

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I did some really corny ****, but it worked.

basically iw as in computer class and she sat in another row.


so we were sneakin onto aim express and i was just talkin to her and then i said

dude you know who i like?
her: who?
me: mmm
her: tell me!!!
me:well shes pretty and coool
her: who is it?
me: insert other crap i said here*
her: omg tell me who
me: well shes sitting between xxx and xxx =]
her: *looks behind at me jaw drops and smiles*
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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use a wing if you don't want to do it personally

he could be like, "hey man who are you going to the mall with this friday? i'm going with my girlfriend _____. you're going to be walking alongside your mom if you keep this up..hahh"

then he could walk away

and then you could ask her flat out

orrrr you could just ask her to help you pick out apparel

if she really likes you, the deliverance really shouldn't matter, unless it's pure a$$
 

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lol i asked this girl im friends with what she thought about me saying, "so im going to the mall on friday, u should come with me". and she thought it was really cute and a good idea.
 

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i think you guys are misunderstanding his question.

hes not asking for tips on how to ask a girl on a date or whatever.

i'm assuming hes been dating this girl and just wants the title of boyfriend/girlfriend.

see my above post for my 2 cents =P
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Kev07 said:
i think you guys are misunderstanding his question.

hes not asking for tips on how to ask a girl on a date or whatever.
No i am asking more so on asking a girl out.
 

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Depends where you want to go, remember the DJ approach.
A)I AM GOING XXX AT XXX(time), i would like it if you came with me OR
b)lets go XXX at XXX
keep it simple, remember, say the place, time, and see if shes free. Dont talk for longer than 5 minutes as this makes you seem desperate to talk to her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Kev07 said:
I did some really corny ****, but it worked.

basically iw as in computer class and she sat in another row.


so we were sneakin onto aim express and i was just talkin to her and then i said

dude you know who i like?
her: who?
me: mmm
her: tell me!!!
me:well shes pretty and coool
her: who is it?
me: insert other crap i said here*
her: omg tell me who
me: well shes sitting between xxx and xxx =]
her: *looks behind at me jaw drops and smiles*

Dat wasnt corny that was raw! That was serious lol. You get one of these. :wave: (I dont no what that is its just funny.)
 
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