"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Best things to say to toy with an attention who*e's mind?

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I am going to have some fun with a AW who I am in 3 out of my 4 grad school classes. Since I sit next to her I can't simply ignore her so I decided to play with her. I am good with dealing with attention who*es but mainly in action. I am not as good in saying things that will get to them. I want to take the next step to the next level in this.

Would "you look nice today" be a good one? Today I began the "war" and said "hey, buddy" when she walked into class. She was probably thinking I had gone AFC head over heels for her and here I am suddenly calling her a friend. :crackup:

Some may say I am doing this out of some weird sadism but I am doing this for practical reasons. The only way you can get anywhere with attention who*es is depriving them of what they want. Be indifferent to them, at least in terms of attraction. This usually causes them to go wild wondering why you aren't drooling over them and they try to "win you back." I am basically using her for social proof. Having her all over me will only make me look better in the eyes of other girls.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Sounds like a good plan dude. I'm in a similar situation with one too though i made a bit of a mistake at the beginning giving her too much attention. Since then I've ignored her and acted not interested and busy and now she is seeking me out to talk to her.

I'm going to play it the same way as I've done before but if I'm trying to get her to come out with me to spend a little one on one time without her thinking I'm asking her out, what would you suggest to be a good way to tackle an attention wh*re for this?
 

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Who is John Galt? said:
I am going to have some fun with a AW who I am in 3 out of my 4 grad school classes. Since I sit next to her I can't simply ignore her so I decided to play with her. I am good with dealing with attention who*es but mainly in action. I am not as good in saying things that will get to them. I want to take the next step to the next level in this.

Would "you look nice today" be a good one? Today I began the "war" and said "hey, buddy" when she walked into class. She was probably thinking I had gone AFC head over heels for her and here I am suddenly calling her a friend. :crackup:

Some may say I am doing this out of some weird sadism but I am doing this for practical reasons. The only way you can get anywhere with attention who*es is depriving them of what they want. Be indifferent to them, at least in terms of attraction. This usually causes them to go wild wondering why you aren't drooling over them and they try to "win you back." I am basically using her for social proof. Having her all over me will only make me look better in the eyes of other girls.
Saying you look nice today might be exactly what she wants to hear. Try something like 'nice makeup' or other neg hits and back handed compliments. Not giving her your attention when she tries to get it is obviously the most effective way as you said.
 

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One thing i learned about attention *****s is you cannot show affection toward them. You cannot compliment them. You cannot give them anything or do anything for them.

I was dealing with an attention ***** at my work a while back and I thought i was doing good, she sought me out out of a group of 10 other guys, flirted wtih me hardcore until i gave in, only after i asked her out and she gave me the runaround did i realize she was an attention *****. Looking back at what happened, I made every mistake in the book because I didn't know what I was dealing with.

She is probably hot looking right? She probably has low self esteem. I would suggest attacking her self esteem with neg hits. I had only one experience with attention *****s and I wish i could experience it again in this setting because i learned alot about them. Tell her to her face that some other girl in the room is the hottest one in there or something, things like that.

After the girl i was trying to get gave me the runaround about me asking her on a date, she was trying to keep the attention going, trying to get me to spend time with her, but i was like to hell with this, and basically told her she's screwing with me, and withdrew, at this point, she stopped giving me as much attention as well, so there was no way for me to get her to chase me, besides, now she is moving so it's over.

I can tell you the problem is, you won't know when you "won her over." She is playing a game and will lead you to believe she likes you. Don't let your guard down and don't assume she is into you. The girl i was involved with had fake phone convos telling how i was awesome, she's going to move back to be with me someday, etc as she knew I was coming up behind her. Then finally I didn't eat lunch with her or see her for 2 days in a row, she told me this is it, have lunch with me today, i said no, she sent me this message saying "i thought we could have a long distance relationship when I moved, take care." This was without a date and like 2 months of flirting.
 
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yeah i hear where you're coming from, sounds exactly like this girl. Problem is she is always with some guy flirting chatting away. I just withdraw myself and don't go up to her to say hi until she is alone partly because she'll just play me off the other dude.

then when I do I just greet her with a kiss on the cheek briefly then walk away whilst talking acting as if I have things to do and places to be.

The problem is I'm thinking of asking her to come somewhere with me next week but not in a asking her out kind of way as that is exactly what she wants.

If I suggest I'm going to the mall next week and I need a girls opinion on something I need do you reckon this would be a good way to do this?

I reckon she'll be like 'yeah' then give me difficulty in getting her number which I think at which point I should act as if its no big deal and walk away just saying 'ok fine don't worry about it'.. or would the walking away seem and act like I've been rejected?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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