"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Best things to say to toy with an attention who*e's mind?

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I am going to have some fun with a AW who I am in 3 out of my 4 grad school classes. Since I sit next to her I can't simply ignore her so I decided to play with her. I am good with dealing with attention who*es but mainly in action. I am not as good in saying things that will get to them. I want to take the next step to the next level in this.

Would "you look nice today" be a good one? Today I began the "war" and said "hey, buddy" when she walked into class. She was probably thinking I had gone AFC head over heels for her and here I am suddenly calling her a friend. :crackup:

Some may say I am doing this out of some weird sadism but I am doing this for practical reasons. The only way you can get anywhere with attention who*es is depriving them of what they want. Be indifferent to them, at least in terms of attraction. This usually causes them to go wild wondering why you aren't drooling over them and they try to "win you back." I am basically using her for social proof. Having her all over me will only make me look better in the eyes of other girls.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Sounds like a good plan dude. I'm in a similar situation with one too though i made a bit of a mistake at the beginning giving her too much attention. Since then I've ignored her and acted not interested and busy and now she is seeking me out to talk to her.

I'm going to play it the same way as I've done before but if I'm trying to get her to come out with me to spend a little one on one time without her thinking I'm asking her out, what would you suggest to be a good way to tackle an attention wh*re for this?
 

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Who is John Galt? said:
I am going to have some fun with a AW who I am in 3 out of my 4 grad school classes. Since I sit next to her I can't simply ignore her so I decided to play with her. I am good with dealing with attention who*es but mainly in action. I am not as good in saying things that will get to them. I want to take the next step to the next level in this.

Would "you look nice today" be a good one? Today I began the "war" and said "hey, buddy" when she walked into class. She was probably thinking I had gone AFC head over heels for her and here I am suddenly calling her a friend. :crackup:

Some may say I am doing this out of some weird sadism but I am doing this for practical reasons. The only way you can get anywhere with attention who*es is depriving them of what they want. Be indifferent to them, at least in terms of attraction. This usually causes them to go wild wondering why you aren't drooling over them and they try to "win you back." I am basically using her for social proof. Having her all over me will only make me look better in the eyes of other girls.
Saying you look nice today might be exactly what she wants to hear. Try something like 'nice makeup' or other neg hits and back handed compliments. Not giving her your attention when she tries to get it is obviously the most effective way as you said.
 

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One thing i learned about attention *****s is you cannot show affection toward them. You cannot compliment them. You cannot give them anything or do anything for them.

I was dealing with an attention ***** at my work a while back and I thought i was doing good, she sought me out out of a group of 10 other guys, flirted wtih me hardcore until i gave in, only after i asked her out and she gave me the runaround did i realize she was an attention *****. Looking back at what happened, I made every mistake in the book because I didn't know what I was dealing with.

She is probably hot looking right? She probably has low self esteem. I would suggest attacking her self esteem with neg hits. I had only one experience with attention *****s and I wish i could experience it again in this setting because i learned alot about them. Tell her to her face that some other girl in the room is the hottest one in there or something, things like that.

After the girl i was trying to get gave me the runaround about me asking her on a date, she was trying to keep the attention going, trying to get me to spend time with her, but i was like to hell with this, and basically told her she's screwing with me, and withdrew, at this point, she stopped giving me as much attention as well, so there was no way for me to get her to chase me, besides, now she is moving so it's over.

I can tell you the problem is, you won't know when you "won her over." She is playing a game and will lead you to believe she likes you. Don't let your guard down and don't assume she is into you. The girl i was involved with had fake phone convos telling how i was awesome, she's going to move back to be with me someday, etc as she knew I was coming up behind her. Then finally I didn't eat lunch with her or see her for 2 days in a row, she told me this is it, have lunch with me today, i said no, she sent me this message saying "i thought we could have a long distance relationship when I moved, take care." This was without a date and like 2 months of flirting.
 
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yeah i hear where you're coming from, sounds exactly like this girl. Problem is she is always with some guy flirting chatting away. I just withdraw myself and don't go up to her to say hi until she is alone partly because she'll just play me off the other dude.

then when I do I just greet her with a kiss on the cheek briefly then walk away whilst talking acting as if I have things to do and places to be.

The problem is I'm thinking of asking her to come somewhere with me next week but not in a asking her out kind of way as that is exactly what she wants.

If I suggest I'm going to the mall next week and I need a girls opinion on something I need do you reckon this would be a good way to do this?

I reckon she'll be like 'yeah' then give me difficulty in getting her number which I think at which point I should act as if its no big deal and walk away just saying 'ok fine don't worry about it'.. or would the walking away seem and act like I've been rejected?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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